Private Pupils And Parking!, any advice gratefully received Options

[jpiano]

Quick update on the above- I have now found out that the parking spaces are in fact general residents and residents' visitors parking and not belonging to any particular houses- and problem neighbour in question still hasn't approached me directly. However, I couldn't help noticing him closely scrutinising the car belonging to my next door neighbour's visitor tonight which was parked perfectly legitimately next to his in the 'spare' bays- and when I let my first pupil in tonight, he was outside in his front garden and couldn't stop staring at her coming to my door. This probably sounds really paranoid, and I don't want to drag myself down to his level- it's just that as a single female-and one dependant on their teaching income, it does make me feel very uneasy and vulnerable. I am an EPTA member, and have thought about asking their legal service for advice-but do feel there isn't much to go on at present-I just don't have a very positive feeling about all of this.

[notmusimum]

This is really difficult situation, this man sounds like a bully. Does he only pick on women?

The best thing might be to ignore his antics as best you can, maybe if thinks you're not threatened by him he'll give up.

He sounds similar to a neighbour of my Parents who had a spate of picking on the younger females in the cul-de-sac. It worked for a while until people started talking and discovered his attitude was not perculiar to them. Now everyone ignores him, not in a rude way but they don't pay him any attention. He's recognised for the daft person he is.

[jpiano]

This is really difficult situation, this man sounds like a bully. Does he only pick on women?

The best thing might be to ignore his antics as best you can, maybe if thinks you're not threatened by him he'll give up.

He sounds similar to a neighbour of my Parents who had a spate of picking on the younger females in the cul-de-sac. It worked for a while until people started talking and discovered his attitude was not perculiar to them. Now everyone ignores him, not in a rude way but they don't pay him any attention. He's recognised for the daft person he is.

I reckon you could well be right. Especially as a couple of other neighbours (also single females, one on speaking terms with him, one who doesn't really ever need to have anything to do with him) said to me they think he could potentially be a bit of a bully, and not to be intimidated by him. And the one on speaking terms is intending to tactfully tackle him about the state of his front garden-which should be very interesting indeed and might take his mind off me and my visitors. I'm inclined to agree that ignoring him is probably the best policy-it's not as if he's actually said anything to me, after all. I don't even feel like asking my pupils to park elsewhere at the moment unless he approaches me directly-it's almost like drawing attention to his strange behaviour. The really peculiar thing is that he's lived there about 9 months and has only just started behaving like this-or maybe it's because it's only just been drawn to my attention. And they actually have a young toddler, who is the quietest child I've ever come across- you never hear any noise of playing in the garden, or see any other children visiting-or the normal things you'd associate with a young family.
I don't know, neighbours-they can make or break a place, can't they.

There again probably reading too much into it-I think the trouble nowadays is also that houses are built much closer together so you're living in closer proximity to other people-but we don't really know our neighbours in lots of areas at all-makes coping with problems a lot harder.