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katyjay
post Apr 18 2009, 09:50 PM
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QUOTE(SueHM @ Apr 18 2009, 10:31 PM) *

How likely to return - well, its not looking very likely at present. On the other hand, the powers that be may make it more difficult to return if I do not jump through certain hoops within a certain time-frame. If I don't do this course there will be others, but I would end up in the same quandry the night before, no doubt.

I could spend a very happy day practising and preparing lessons for next week.

I'm having an interesting time counselling my eldest kids about A level choices and career moves. I don't think I made a particularly sensible choice of degree/career and I'm torn between demonstrating:

1. Make the best of a bad job, stiff upper lip, get on with it, don't quit, don't let the training go to waste, sense of duty etc

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2. Life's too short, don't stick with a wrong decision forever just because you don't want to look/feel a failure, get out if it's making you unhappy.

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SueHM, we only get one life each. And it's up to each of us to live our own lives and enjoy doing so. To my mind that's option 2 of your post.

OK, I'll never have as "good" a musical career as I did a financial one - if you talk in terms of promotions and earnings and all that stuff - but I'm a darn sight happer and more fulfilled in the latter. I'm being myself, not just another rat in the rat race (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
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SueHM
post Apr 18 2009, 09:52 PM
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Thanks everyone. I think Czerny's last point is pretty persuasive.

Have resolved to go for at least part of the day and see how it goes. Going does not commit me to anything further, but creates opportunity for change of heart at some future date, thus leaving options open.

Thanks for your advice, everyone.

Suppose I had better go find something to wear... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ph34r.gif)

PS Re bridges - matches are at the ready, but will keep them in my bag for now.
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post Apr 18 2009, 09:53 PM
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Go - and if you run out screaming at coffee time, that will tell you all you need to know. And don't go next year - don't even sign up - save yourself the money.
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post Apr 18 2009, 09:59 PM
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I'd go, especially given as it's already been paid for.
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post Apr 18 2009, 09:59 PM
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QUOTE(SueHM @ Apr 18 2009, 10:52 PM) *

Thanks everyone. I think Czerny's last point is pretty persuasive.

Don't encourage her! It'll only go to her head! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif)
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post Apr 18 2009, 10:00 PM
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Katyjay - yup, know what you mean.

In a way, I suppose going to the course gives me a toe in the water. Who knows, maybe I'll meet up with old colleagues (I know at least 3 are going) and have a great time - unlikely, but if I don't go, I'll never know. If I can't hack a day of it, then there is no point even thinking about going back....

Once again, thanks for all your thoughts..
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post Apr 18 2009, 10:17 PM
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If I can't decide about things like this I weigh up how good the coffee is likely to be... then make the decision accordingly. A good chocolate shortbread and coffee can make anything worthwhile (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif)

But before you think I'm being too flippant - I am a total procrastinator but once I make a decision I make the most of it... so the coffee thing is a technique to avoid decisions.. but I've ended up going to some really interesting events even though I might otherwise have bottled out (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ph34r.gif)
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post Apr 19 2009, 07:18 AM
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QUOTE(SueHM @ Apr 18 2009, 11:00 PM) *

Katyjay - yup, know what you mean.

In a way, I suppose going to the course gives me a toe in the water. Who knows, maybe I'll meet up with old colleagues (I know at least 3 are going) and have a great time - unlikely, but if I don't go, I'll never know. If I can't hack a day of it, then there is no point even thinking about going back....

Once again, thanks for all your thoughts..


How did it go Sue?
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post Apr 20 2009, 07:30 PM
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post Apr 20 2009, 08:21 PM
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Well.....I went. I arrived after it started and sat at the back. To my surprise, I found myself quite gripped - perhaps it helped that they were talking about a particular interest of mine. I didn't break out in a cold sweat or start having palpitations. Found my friend over coffee, had a nice packed lunch in the park and left in time for some shopping on the way home. Couldn't help myself - started asking questions about all sorts - so obviously I'm not over it!!

I think I was incredibly stressed when I finished my last job and that was colouring my feelings about the whole issue. I was pleasantly surprised by my reactions on Sunday, so glad I went in the end. Thanks to everyone who offered support - I really appreciated it (and I don't think I would have gone otherwise). I won't be rushing back to work, but it is definitely a possibility for the future and less of a horror than it was!

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post Apr 20 2009, 08:27 PM
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QUOTE(SueHM @ Apr 20 2009, 09:21 PM) *

Well.....I went. I arrived after it started and sat at the back. To my surprise, I found myself quite gripped - perhaps it helped that they were talking about a particular interest of mine. I didn't break out in a cold sweat or start having palpitations. Found my friend over coffee, had a nice packed lunch in the park and left in time for some shopping on the way home. Couldn't help myself - started asking questions about all sorts - so obviously I'm not over it!!

I think I was incredibly stressed when I finished my last job and that was colouring my feelings about the whole issue. I was pleasantly surprised by my reactions on Sunday, so glad I went in the end. Thanks to everyone who offered support - I really appreciated it (and I don't think I would have gone otherwise). I won't be rushing back to work, but it is definitely a possibility for the future and less of a horror than it was!

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Yay! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
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post Apr 20 2009, 08:34 PM
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post Apr 20 2009, 08:46 PM
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Well done Sue! Glad you enjoyed it after all. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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post Apr 20 2009, 08:57 PM
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Good for you! great to surprise yourself sometimes. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
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Thanks for coming back to let us know how things turned out - and it sounds like they turned out very well! Good for you!
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