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[maddielou_]

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[Soph15]

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Hope you are ok x x


argh. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

[maddielou_]

I'm really stressed out.
Right me and a few friends wanted to organise a camping trip for loads of us after results, and I mentioned to my mum a week ago that this might be happening and she was fine about it.
So me and a friend have spent the last three days organising it and like ringing up everywhere and getting it all sorted and we finally sorted it all out today and like we have sorted out how we are getting there, where we are staying, costs, what food we will need, what clothes we will need and stuff. There will be 10 of us and we are all 16 nearly 17 and there will be one 18 year old nearly 19 so we are being really responsible and making sure we know everything. So i can home tonight and reminded mum about it and bascially she said I can't go =/.
I have left it for now cos it's late and she is working tomorrow but I have no idea how to persuade her!! Its so unfair because it's not like its a really unorganised, like everything is organised and we have maps of where we will be going and how long it should take us to walk from the train station to the campsite and all that sort of stuff and like we have this 18 year old with us who is really responsible (my mum knows who she is cos she is in my brothers year) and she was head girl and is going to cambridge and has BELA and stuff so its not like its just a group of 16 year old girls on their own.

I just, gahh, im just upset that all this organising is useless (well not for everyone else) and i don't know whether i am being really unreasonable asking to go?

Anyways, rant over!

Soph are you okay?
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[Soph15]

I'm really stressed out.
Right me and a few friends wanted to organise a camping trip for loads of us after results, and I mentioned to my mum a week ago that this might be happening and she was fine about it.
So me and a friend have spent the last three days organising it and like ringing up everywhere and getting it all sorted and we finally sorted it all out today and like we have sorted out how we are getting there, where we are staying, costs, what food we will need, what clothes we will need and stuff. There will be 10 of us and we are all 16 nearly 17 and there will be one 18 year old nearly 19 so we are being really responsible and making sure we know everything. So i can home tonight and reminded mum about it and bascially she said I can't go =/.
I have left it for now cos it's late and she is working tomorrow but I have no idea how to persuade her!! Its so unfair because it's not like its a really unorganised, like everything is organised and we have maps of where we will be going and how long it should take us to walk from the train station to the campsite and all that sort of stuff and like we have this 18 year old with us who is really responsible (my mum knows who she is cos she is in my brothers year) and she was head girl and is going to cambridge and has BELA and stuff so its not like its just a group of 16 year old girls on their own.

I just, gahh, im just upset that all this organising is useless (well not for everyone else) and i don't know whether i am being really unreasonable asking to go?

Anyways, rant over!

Soph are you okay?
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Maybe try and talk to your Mum tomorrow, remind her that you did mention it and she was fine. Maybe let her talk to the older person going with you?
I hope it all gets sorted for you soon and that you get to go!!
And, no you arent being unreasonable asking to go at all.
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Ah, dont worry about me.

[maddielou_]

I'm really stressed out.
Right me and a few friends wanted to organise a camping trip for loads of us after results, and I mentioned to my mum a week ago that this might be happening and she was fine about it.
So me and a friend have spent the last three days organising it and like ringing up everywhere and getting it all sorted and we finally sorted it all out today and like we have sorted out how we are getting there, where we are staying, costs, what food we will need, what clothes we will need and stuff. There will be 10 of us and we are all 16 nearly 17 and there will be one 18 year old nearly 19 so we are being really responsible and making sure we know everything. So i can home tonight and reminded mum about it and bascially she said I can't go =/.
I have left it for now cos it's late and she is working tomorrow but I have no idea how to persuade her!! Its so unfair because it's not like its a really unorganised, like everything is organised and we have maps of where we will be going and how long it should take us to walk from the train station to the campsite and all that sort of stuff and like we have this 18 year old with us who is really responsible (my mum knows who she is cos she is in my brothers year) and she was head girl and is going to cambridge and has BELA and stuff so its not like its just a group of 16 year old girls on their own.

I just, gahh, im just upset that all this organising is useless (well not for everyone else) and i don't know whether i am being really unreasonable asking to go?

Anyways, rant over!

Soph are you okay?
x

Maybe try and talk to your Mum tomorrow, remind her that you did mention it and she was fine. Maybe let her talk to the older person going with you?
I hope it all gets sorted for you soon and that you get to go!!
And, no you arent being unreasonable asking to go at all.
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Ah, dont worry about me.

Thanks. Its just annoying because she always does this and says I can go and then changes her mind. Its so silly. And its not like we are camping a million miles away its only a 45 minute journey on the train!

Hope you are okay!
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[Soph15]

Reassure her that you will be contactable maybe, tell her your phone will be with you at all times?

[ben_walker446]

This is like when me and a few friends went London...we HAD to book it and one hadn't asked their parents as they kept saying "Ask us nearer the time".... so we booked...got tickets etc...and then when they asked the week before...NO you can't go! ... Hmm...My friend then ran away from home in the early hours...but his mum tracked him to the train stattion...not good...but in the end she let him go...she was very upset though!

[Rosemary7391]

I think parents are like that.. Mine hate me just upping and going to town for the afternoon or something, yet when I arrange something in advance they keep putting off the decision. Or forget they told me I could go and then yell at me for pointing out I can't do whatever they just planned because it clashes.

Maybe your mum could come and watch you guys set up the tents? Might make her feel better knowing that at least you have shelter.

[maddielou_]

I think parents are like that.. Mine hate me just upping and going to town for the afternoon or something, yet when I arrange something in advance they keep putting off the decision. Or forget they told me I could go and then yell at me for pointing out I can't do whatever they just planned because it clashes.

Maybe your mum could come and watch you guys set up the tents? Might make her feel better knowing that at least you have shelter.

Thing is she wouldn't do that, it's just grr so annoying. Also, last year she let my brother go to leeds fest when he just turned 17 and i know its a bit different as there are loads of people there but he could have got drunk (which he did) he could have done drugs or something, and there was only 4 of them there and my brother didn't tell my parents what his mobile number was, whereas I am with 9 other people one of whom is this older girl, we've got everything planned, I will always have my phone on me and they have all the numbers and stuff. grr!
anyways, in a better mood this morning cos my brother got good results! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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[Soph15]

argh!!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

[all ears]

Try leaving a written copy of your schedule with your parents, so they know you've got yourselves organized? I know YOU know you're organized, but do THEY know?

(Thinking of all the irresponsible junkets I've let my kids go on....wave them off with a smile, and then pace for days with the phone in my hand! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ill.gif) )

[Panthera]

(IMG:style_emoticons/default/argh.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/argh.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/argh.gif) *Ready to strangle a colleague...*

I'm in need of a stiff drink.

[maddielou_]

Try leaving a written copy of your schedule with your parents, so they know you've got yourselves organized? I know YOU know you're organized, but do THEY know?

(Thinking of all the irresponsible junkets I've let my kids go on....wave them off with a smile, and then pace for days with the phone in my hand! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ill.gif) )

I have. We've made/are making folders with all the information in for any parent who wants one and are taking like all directions and maps and medical info and all that stuff in a folder with us. Hopefully going to try and persuade her tonight.
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[jod]

Speaking as a parent, I know I have to let go, which is why my 9 year old is at the park and I am not, but if he is late back...

The relationship has to be built on trust. You as a young adult want wider boundaries, we as the silly emotional beings who bore you and looked after you whilst you could not would rather know you are not taking any stupid risks so:

Making sure you leave a list of the whole groups mobile numbers with every parent is good (that way if one battery goes flat and you find no place to charge it you still can be contacted) Giving the parent and itinerary and sticking to it, or if you deviate find some internet cafe and sending an email with amended details or phoning is a good idea.

Make sure you don't run out of money. Never telephone home when drunk or stoned. Don't get yourself arrested and arrive back in one piece and on time and you'll keep them happy.

As parents we remember what it was to be teenagers... that is half the problem! However if you can negotiate the bargain in the first place and stick to the arrangements you'll keep us lot happy.

I hope that when my kids get to the stage of going to teenage parties they will always know that mum will provide the taxi home when the ring for her. I'd rather have a couple of drunk teenagers in the back of my car smelling mildly of weed than what happened recently around our way when two lads pegged it and ended up getting hit by a lorry. The lads survived... with serious head injuries. Now that might me sound unusual for a mum, but as long as my boys keep their noses clean, and keep doing well at school, what I don't know about at a teenage party won't hurt me.

[maddielou_]

Speaking as a parent, I know I have to let go, which is why my 9 year old is at the park and I am not, but if he is late back...

The relationship has to be built on trust. You as a young adult want wider boundaries, we as the silly emotional beings who bore you and looked after you whilst you could not would rather know you are not taking any stupid risks so:

Making sure you leave a list of the whole groups mobile numbers with every parent is good (that way if one battery goes flat and you find no place to charge it you still can be contacted) Giving the parent and itinerary and sticking to it, or if you deviate find some internet cafe and sending an email with amended details or phoning is a good idea.

Make sure you don't run out of money. Never telephone home when drunk or stoned. Don't get yourself arrested and arrive back in one piece and on time and you'll keep them happy.

As parents we remember what it was to be teenagers... that is half the problem! However if you can negotiate the bargain in the first place and stick to the arrangements you'll keep us lot happy.

I hope that when my kids get to the stage of going to teenage parties they will always know that mum will provide the taxi home when the ring for her. I'd rather have a couple of drunk teenagers in the back of my car smelling mildly of weed than what happened recently around our way when two lads pegged it and ended up getting hit by a lorry. The lads survived... with serious head injuries. Now that might me sound unusual for a mum, but as long as my boys keep their noses clean, and keep doing well at school, what I don't know about at a teenage party won't hurt me.

Wish you were my mum hehe.
Thanks for the advice, and we won't be stoned or drunk! At least I don't think anyone will be, we're all good girls (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
Will tell you all what happens when I ask again x