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[Crotchetymum]

I thought your husband was behind you with your music career? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

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LOL yeah, so did I! Still we live and learn...and I've got to dig some more students up rapidly! We are trying to share the flat, but he's saying the odd 2 words to me and anything I say I get cut off. Ah well, band gig tonight so won't be about.

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[maggiemay]

Oh dear, Dawn. Sorry to hear you have come home to this. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

[Aquarelle]

I thought your husband was behind you with your music career? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

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LOL yeah, so did I! Still we live and learn...and I've got to dig some more students up rapidly! We are trying to share the flat, but he's saying the odd 2 words to me and anything I say I get cut off. Ah well, band gig tonight so won't be about.

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From me too. Very sorry to hear about your problems and those of your first flautist. Hope you manage to keep up your morale.

[wendywoo]

I thought your husband was behind you with your music career? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

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LOL yeah, so did I! Still we live and learn...and I've got to dig some more students up rapidly! We are trying to share the flat, but he's saying the odd 2 words to me and anything I say I get cut off. Ah well, band gig tonight so won't be about.

Aw Dawn (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
I hope you can work this out

[Sunrise]

Thanks everyone. It's just so awkward. But he isn't going anywhere - told me that in no uncertain terms - so here we stay for now. Get the feeling the settee may get alot of use.

[Swell Box]

Can?t believe I typed that!! I meant bliss of course, and the redness, heat and pain have spread and now I have pus coming out of my finger (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ill.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ill.gif) Good job we had some ?botics in the house and I?ve swallowed a few. Hoping it will sort itself out overnight...

1. You should not prescribe antibiotics to yourself - they may do you harm, or interact badly with other medicines, or simply be ineffective against whatever problem you have. Your doctor will know.

You can if you're a doctor can't you?

I don't think doctors are allowed to self-prescribe as it can be difficult to remain objective about your own symptoms, and of course there is also a risk of abuse.

SB

[Susie]

I'm so sorry for everyone who's not well or going through hard times. They're all rather worse than mine.

I just came here to wail that I've got a bad cold just in time for half term. I don't usually get colds but am rather run down just now (90 year old mother needing rather a lot of support hasn't helped).

Hope everyone feels better soon, and that situations resolve themselves. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/grouphug.gif)

[Dulcet]

I'm so sorry for everyone who's not well or going through hard times. They're all rather worse than mine.

I just came here to wail that I've got a bad cold just in time for half term. I don't usually get colds but am rather run down just now (90 year old mother needing rather a lot of support hasn't helped).

Hope everyone feels better soon, and that situations resolve themselves. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/grouphug.gif)

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[Swell Box]

I thought your husband was behind you with your music career? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

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LOL yeah, so did I! Still we live and learn...and I've got to dig some more students up rapidly! We are trying to share the flat, but he's saying the odd 2 words to me and anything I say I get cut off. Ah well, band gig tonight so won't be about.

Aw Dawn (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
I hope you can work this out

Sadly, non musical people just don?t get the needs of those of us who live and breathe for music.

My wife has little or no interest in music beyond listening to Take That or U2, and she just doesn?t understand why our son, in particular, needs to practice every day and take regular music lessons. Most of the time she is happy for me to taxi him around and accompany him to whatever event he needs to go to, but she wants nothing to do with it, and so every now and then it causes a conflict.

I really wish I knew what the answer was, and I wish you well in sorting out your problems.

SB

[Brynfan]

WHY are kids so horrible? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mad.gif)

My 8 year old told me before the summer holidays that his best friend (BF) had decided he didn't want to play with him anymore. I thought nothing of it, kids will be kids I thought - they'll be friends again soon. Then a few weeks ago I found out that the former BF had started excluded him from the group and pushing and shoving him whenever he was close enough. I told their class teacher and she assured me it would be dealt with. I've been asking my son regularly since then if everything's ok and he's assured me that it is.

Last night I found out from another classmate (who I teach) that former BF is now encouraging the other kids to stop playing with my son, calling him names etc. My son has very little confidence and is a quiet, undemanding child, and despite being ****hot and fearless on the rugby pitch and came 2nd for his age and grade in karate in the recent world championships, he just won't stand up to this boy (which has now become a group of boys).

So now I have another visit to the school to make, this time officially, not just a chat with the teacher in the yard.

Mother on a mission here!

[jod]

Sorry to hear that, Appassionata... I hope you are in less pain soon.

Need to take it easy for a couple of days as I got to the 'hit the wall' stage of tiredness last night. With Fibro that's never a good thing as that can soon turn into the shattered and everything really hurts stage. With half term coming up I need to be on good form as I want to spend quality time with my sons rather than feeling rotten and unable to do anything worthwhile.

I think I might be about to go into one of those stages... and tomorrow I'm starting an internship and have my first lecture of my final year. Grr. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) Hope you feel better soon jod. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/thereThere.gif)

Mutual hugs Floss. Should get a reasonably early night. Unfortunately hubby has a cold. If I catch it I'm done for next week.

I hope you don't catch it - I've got the current one which is doing the rounds in this house courtesy of Freshers' week... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif)

I've caught it and guess what it has manifest its self as an exacerbation of the dreaded fibro as well as a cold.

Then to add insult to injury after being sympathetic to hubby, he claims I have no empathy when he is ill! I wish he understood that catching a cold is a double whammy. I have spent the week chasing my tail sorting out family problems, then just because I go down with the same cold within 24 hrs of him I lack empathy!

Sorry to hear about the back pain Appassionata, having just got over a serious spell of back-pain I hope yours gets better soon.

[andante]

WHY are kids so horrible? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mad.gif)

My 8 year old told me before the summer holidays that his best friend (BF) had decided he didn't want to play with him anymore. I thought nothing of it, kids will be kids I thought - they'll be friends again soon. Then a few weeks ago I found out that the former BF had started excluded him from the group and pushing and shoving him whenever he was close enough. I told their class teacher and she assured me it would be dealt with. I've been asking my son regularly since then if everything's ok and he's assured me that it is.

Last night I found out from another classmate (who I teach) that former BF is now encouraging the other kids to stop playing with my son, calling him names etc. My son has very little confidence and is a quiet, undemanding child, and despite being ****hot and fearless on the rugby pitch and came 2nd for his age and grade in karate in the recent world championships, he just won't stand up to this boy (which has now become a group of boys).

So now I have another visit to the school to make, this time officially, not just a chat with the teacher in the yard.

Mother on a mission here!

Do you have a copy of their anti bullying policy. It is proabably available online if you don't have a hard copy, arm yourself with it. Good luck.

[Brynfan]

First thing I did this morning before contacting the school was to look up their policy. It seems to be a pretty bog standard anti-bullying policy. Having been bullied myself in the workplace, by a woman who'd also done exactly the same to the woman I'd replaced and the one before that, which absolutely everyone was aware of and in an organisation that had policies to cover everything, I have to say that I don;t have much faith in management, after they let this woman get away with it so many times (and thinking back she wasn't the only bully there).

I have an appointment for this afternoon to see the head and class teacher, so fingers crossed we can sort this out before it escalates further. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/fingersCrossed.gif)

[jod]

First thing I did this morning before contacting the school was to look up their policy. It seems to be a pretty bog standard anti-bullying policy. Having been bullied myself in the workplace, by a woman who'd also done exactly the same to the woman I'd replaced and the one before that, which absolutely everyone was aware of and in an organisation that had policies to cover everything, I have to say that I don;t have much faith in management, after they let this woman get away with it so many times (and thinking back she wasn't the only bully there).

I have an appointment for this afternoon to see the head and class teacher, so fingers crossed we can sort this out before it escalates further. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/fingersCrossed.gif)

Head teachers like to think there is no bulling going on in their wonderful school, so be strong. I've dealt with two Primary School Heads re this matter. The second has been significantly better than the first, but still capable of wearing blinkers if not challenged (even though in the main I believe he does an excellent job).

In their heart of hearts they will not want to think anyone has hurt your child and will help, but it is an administrative headache for them, so you may need to be very assertive to get your point across. Good Luck.

[Swell Box]

First thing I did this morning before contacting the school was to look up their policy. It seems to be a pretty bog standard anti-bullying policy. Having been bullied myself in the workplace, by a woman who'd also done exactly the same to the woman I'd replaced and the one before that, which absolutely everyone was aware of and in an organisation that had policies to cover everything, I have to say that I don;t have much faith in management, after they let this woman get away with it so many times (and thinking back she wasn't the only bully there).

I have an appointment for this afternoon to see the head and class teacher, so fingers crossed we can sort this out before it escalates further. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/fingersCrossed.gif)

Head teachers like to think there is no bulling going on in their wonderful school, so be strong. I've dealt with two Primary School Heads re this matter. The second has been significantly better than the first, but still capable of wearing blinkers if not challenged (even though in the main I believe he does an excellent job).

In their heart of hearts they will not want to think anyone has hurt your child and will help, but it is an administrative headache for them, so you may need to be very assertive to get your point across. Good Luck.

This is never an easy task for anyone involved. How do you tell children (or adults for that matter) not to bully others? I would always worry that the bullies might just try to make matters worse.

For some reason too many staff in schools seem to be more concerned about the bullies that their victims. We had a problem with one of our children at primary school, and we knew other parents who had similar concerns. We tried to make an appointment with the Head Teacher, but were warned off by the School Secretary, who said that the offending boy was 'having a difficult time at home as his parents had separated', and that we 'should think ourselves lucky'. Oh, so that is OK then? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/angry.gif) Are children allowed to be bullies if their parents separate? Do other children just have to accept bullying as price to be paid for having both parents living at home?

We did get to speak to the Head, and things did get better for our child, but two other parents felt they had no option but to take their children out of the school. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/angry.gif)

SB