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post Feb 2 2011, 04:49 PM
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QUOTE(SueHM @ Feb 2 2011, 01:06 PM) *

Day 10 of my cold. Bored now.
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Day 6 for me, but having the same feeling - along with a desperate urge for it to go away before the first night of the show, on the 16th.
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post Feb 2 2011, 04:54 PM
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I'm sure it's getting colder... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif)
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post Feb 3 2011, 07:58 AM
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I would always prefer to teach 10 of my own pupils theory than to teach my own lovely daughter. AAARRRGGGGHHHHHH. I am not even 'teaching' her but helping her with her homework! But I know nothing apparently....

I tried to teach her theory with some of my pupils once but she would make crumpets in the middle of lessons and distract the others!!!
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post Feb 3 2011, 09:00 AM
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I am going to a funeral today (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

I worry about crying inappropriately because although this person touched my life hugely we did not know each other that well and I don't want her friends and family thinking I'm being flakey/insincere/melodramatic.

The whole situation at funerals makes me cry - I can't help it.
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post Feb 3 2011, 09:08 AM
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Oh lottie, I think you shouldn't worry about crying as much as you want to. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/thereThere.gif)

I've only been to...think, think...four funerals in my life. I find that they have got progressively harder - because each one makes me think of the ones before. So at the first funeral it was just my nan to think about, but the most recent one I ended up thinking about my nan, my other nan, my grandad, as well as my mother-in-law whose actual funeral it was.

I can't imagine I'm the only one like this...
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post Feb 3 2011, 09:24 AM
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QUOTE(lottie @ Feb 3 2011, 09:00 AM) *

I am going to a funeral today (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

I worry about crying inappropriately because although this person touched my life hugely we did not know each other that well and I don't want her friends and family thinking I'm being flakey/insincere/melodramatic.

The whole situation at funerals makes me cry - I can't help it.


It's not inappropriate to cry at a funeral. Crying is a natural human reaction to very sad events.

Thinking of you, lottie (IMG:style_emoticons/default/thereThere.gif)
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post Feb 3 2011, 09:31 AM
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Funerals always feel to me very much like one of those occasions where you can feel alone in a crowd. Everyone tends to be very focussed on their own feelings, so the people who you are most concerned about (close friends and family) will likely not even notice much of what is going on, and won't think it strange even if you do shed a few tears. If you feel that strongly about a person, it isn't inappropriate or melodramatic to be moved to tears at their funeral. I'm sure that people will only take it as a natural reaction and won't think any the less of you for it.
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post Feb 3 2011, 10:57 AM
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Thanks everyone - that really helps (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/grouphug.gif)

Just out of pure coincidence I found something of hers this morning and that set me off. I now just feel exhausted... but calmer. Part of the pain comes from the fact she was only my age (too young) and one of life's true angels.

I think I'll cope this afternoon now
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post Feb 4 2011, 02:46 PM
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Just to let you know the funeral was desperately sad but I held it together.

Grief is such a strong thing and I wish it wasn't such a taboo. There were only a couple of people willing to listen to me this week and I was hurting so much.

This lady has touched my life one more time and I'll never forget her - her death has changed my outlook (for the better).

Still. So sad. It was just wrong that she died.


(ok I'll shut up about it now (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blush.gif) )
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post Feb 4 2011, 02:47 PM
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(ok I'll shut up about it now (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blush.gif) )

Not at all - it's better to get stuff off your chest, especially since grief is such a hard emotion to deal with. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/thereThere.gif)
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post Feb 4 2011, 04:02 PM
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QUOTE(lottie @ Feb 4 2011, 02:46 PM) *

Just to let you know the funeral was desperately sad but I held it together.

Grief is such a strong thing and I wish it wasn't such a taboo. There were only a couple of people willing to listen to me this week and I was hurting so much.

This lady has touched my life one more time and I'll never forget her - her death has changed my outlook (for the better).

Still. So sad. It was just wrong that she died.


(ok I'll shut up about it now (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blush.gif) )


Our modern society deals very badly with death and terminal illness. I suppose the truth is that modern medicine and our Health and Safety culture means that [thankfully] most people will never experience the death of a close friend or relative until their own parents die, so we just don't understand know how to deal with death and the grieving process.

The worst part of this is that many people worry about saying the wrong thing to somebody who is terminally ill or recently bereaved, so they find it easier to cross the road, or avoid conversation; which can make life very lonely at the time when support is most needed.

The Victorians, on the other hand, were obsessed with death, partly for religious reasons, but more because life expectancy was so short in those days, and the infant mortality rate was such that many families would have suffered the grief of losing a baby or young child.

Grief never goes away, but it does get better, and letting your emotions out is all part of the healing process. You may also have illogical thoughts about your friend, but these too will pass with time, and you will gain a better understanding of what has happened.

Stay strong, but give yourself time and space too. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/grouphug.gif)

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post Feb 4 2011, 04:48 PM
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I couldn't help but laugh at this story

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-12363852
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post Feb 4 2011, 05:44 PM
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I couldn't help but laugh at this story

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-12363852


(IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)

My laugh of the day came in an e-mail from the good folks at Comet, who are clearly keen to show that male chauvinism is alive and kicking in Britain. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif)

The e-mail was titled 'Valentine's dilemma?', and carried an invitation to scroll down to some "great gift ideas" - including a Dyson bag-less vacuum cleaner, a Hotpoint 1,400 RPM washing machine, and a fridge freezer. Oh how romantic. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wub.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

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post Feb 4 2011, 07:47 PM
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I started a separate thread on that African story earlier
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post Feb 4 2011, 10:42 PM
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QUOTE(Swell Box @ Feb 4 2011, 05:44 PM) *

My laugh of the day came in an e-mail from the good folks at Comet, who are clearly keen to show that male chauvinism is alive and kicking in Britain. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif)

The e-mail was titled 'Valentine's dilemma?', and carried an invitation to scroll down to some "great gift ideas" - including a Dyson bag-less vacuum cleaner, a Hotpoint 1,400 RPM washing machine, and a fridge freezer. Oh how romantic. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wub.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)

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I'm male and I'd love new kitchen appliances (seeing as I'm just about to buy a load) or a new hoover vacuum cleaner! *shrug*
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