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[BadStrad]

It's made it much easier to care less about other people's behaviour.

But I do care about other people's behaviour. Not just toward me , but toward everyone. I guess I'm intolerant of intolerance. I expect[i] people to behave well.

Well yes, I always hope that people will behave well towards each other too. What I meant here was that if someone goes off in a hissy fit (say) because I didn't do what they wanted or did something they thought I shouldn't (like take up the violin) then instead of fretting about it, I'm finding it easier to let go of it.

[Bagpuss]

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[iona]

[quote name='BadStrad' date='Jun 18 2011, 06:11 PM' post='1067267']
[quote name='iona' post='1067239' date='Jun 18 2011, 05:36 PM'] [quote name='BadStrad' post='1067136' date='Jun 18 2011, 01:44 PM'][/quote]Well yes, I always hope that people will behave well towards each other too. What I meant here was that if someone goes off in a hissy fit (say) because I didn't do what they wanted or did something they thought I shouldn't (like take up the violin) then instead of fretting about it, I'm finding it easier to let go of it.
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Yes. I know. Sorry. Didn't mean to misinterpret. I'm just fired up 'n hoppin'. Just not quite as hoppin' as a few hours ago.

On the bright side, parents who had persistently messed me around all year agreed to stop lessons last week.They have just dropped off a bottle of wine and a card to say Thankyou. What a weird day.

[Crotchetymum]

Have a glass of wine from that thoughtful bottle, and try and enjoy the rest of the weekend. Whatever it was, it sounds as though you're in the best position you could be now - ie free of them, so it's onwards and upwards from here.

[AnnC]

I know exactly what it's like as I had a similar problem with a pupil a few years ago. Since then I learnt that it's a waste of time being angry. I have the right to choose how I feel and if I am angry it means that I am being controlled by the other person. I read in one of Eckhart Tolle's books (one of my favourite authors), "nobody can do anything to you without your permission". That really made me think and nowadays I hardly every get angry with anyone or anything.

And following on from that - are they worth giving brain space to? No! (So don't).

Iona - sorry you've had at rotten time - it happens. Soon the table will turn and your lovely students and parents will make it all worth while>

[Aquarelle]

Sending you a hug iona and encouraging you to put all this behind you as soon as you can. Enjoy your other pupils. Try to keep smiling.

[maledictis]

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Bx

Just out of curiousity, why do you almost always seem to feel the need to put your advice in a PM, instead of on the forum?

[barry-clari]

Iona - sorry you've had at rotten time - it happens. Soon the table will turn and your lovely students and parents will make it all worth while>

Well, I'll do my best (IMG:style_emoticons/default/yay.gif)

[Scooby Doo]

Anyone else dying of curiosity? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blush.gif)

Yup. Methinks there is a juicy tale, but probably too identifiable (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) .

I know just how you feel iona - there are pupils who I regularly see out of the door and then go and seethe over. It really isn?t worth the mental (and physical) energy, but I do it anyway. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

[Cyrilla]

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Bx

Just out of curiousity, why do you almost always seem to feel the need to put your advice in a PM, instead of on the forum?

Just out of curiosity, why does it matter to you???

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[Mae H]

Following on from my last post. Unpleasant parent despatched this morning. No need for a letter. Her behaviour was unacceptable. I'm practically shaking with anger. At the moment my books are now CLOSED to all newcomers. That's how angry I am.

I feel for you - I've had some horrible experiences with unpleasant parents in the past.

[violincjj]

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Bx

Just out of curiousity, why do you almost always seem to feel the need to put your advice in a PM, instead of on the forum?

Just out of curiosity, why does it matter to you???

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It matters a little bit to me too. It's because it feels (to me) like the playground clique where A says to B 'Oh I'll tell you when you come to my house later' - it's something that feels (to me) that we are being deliberately excluded. Silly! But there you go.

[andante]

I find it mildly irritating because there is a valid discussion going on with interesting answers, but we never get to see Bagpuss's input. Perhaps we could all learn from her knowledge and experience. If I PM someone I don't post that I've PMed. It's as if she only thinks some people are worth talking to.

[dolce@piano]

Following on from my last post. Unpleasant parent despatched this morning. No need for a letter. Her behaviour was unacceptable. I'm practically shaking with anger. At the moment my books are now CLOSED to all newcomers. That's how angry I am.

One of the positives from this is that you were obviously quite right to want to 'fire' this pupil/this pupil's parents in the first place.

That's reassuring in itself . . . .

Do hope life is looking a little brighter. All the best . . . .

[violincjj]

I find it mildly irritating because there is a valid discussion going on with interesting answers, but we never get to see Bagpuss's input. Perhaps we could all learn from her knowledge and experience. If I PM someone I don't post that I've PMed. It's as if she only thinks some people are worth talking to.

I have not PMed you (IMG:style_emoticons/default/party1.gif)