Leaving the forums Options

[ffliwt]

Not sure if many of you will know who I am, but after many years here I am leaving.
I might still hover around and have a nosey (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) But won't be posting.
You're the nicest bunch of people (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) But due to a few, I no longer have any freedom of speech and everything I say can be turned into a personal attack, accusing me of being this that and the other, 'this could destroy your future career' etc.etc. It really saddens me.
So I think my time here is over (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) I'm no-where near thick skinned enough for this, I give up! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/peace2.gif)
Thanks for all the help and advice i've been given over the years - from before I'd ever touched a violin to now being in music college, I really wonder if I'd even be here without the inspriation and help from everyone here! So thanks!


(IMG:style_emoticons/default/thanks.gif) Good luck with all your music making! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wub.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/party1.gif)

[barry-clari]

Occasionally, ffliwt, you'll end up in a conflict on the forum, if you post anything like regularly, however hard you try to avoid it. I know I've been involved in plenty! I don't think it's a good reason to leave completely, and I hope you'll reconsider. If you do decide to go, all the very best in the future, I'm sure you'll do fabulously! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

[Listener]

Occasionally, ffliwt, you'll end up in a conflict on the forum, if you post anything like regularly, however hard you try to avoid it. I know I've been involved in plenty! I don't think it's a good reason to leave completely, and I hope you'll reconsider. If you do decide to go, all the very best in the future, I'm sure you'll do fabulously! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)

On the rare occasion a post irritates you, you reply with firmness and good humour. Not everyone is as balanced. Wolf-pack behaviour does happen and unfortunately tends to happen when the invariably unwitting 'offender' is vulnerable in some way; animal behaviour at its worst. Two threads active this week, at least, bear witness to the time and thought ffliwt puts in to helping others despite her demanding conservatoire studies, yet she now feels obliged to leave. We need to develop a collective and robust no-tolerance policy to wolf-pack behaviour, and leap to the defence of victims before it reaches the stage that prompts a thread like this. The temptation is to keep quiet in the hope fuss will die down but wolves don't respond to that.