Leaving the forums Options

[ffliwt]

Not sure if many of you will know who I am, but after many years here I am leaving.
I might still hover around and have a nosey (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) But won't be posting.
You're the nicest bunch of people (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) But due to a few, I no longer have any freedom of speech and everything I say can be turned into a personal attack, accusing me of being this that and the other, 'this could destroy your future career' etc.etc. It really saddens me.
So I think my time here is over (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) I'm no-where near thick skinned enough for this, I give up! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/peace2.gif)
Thanks for all the help and advice i've been given over the years - from before I'd ever touched a violin to now being in music college, I really wonder if I'd even be here without the inspriation and help from everyone here! So thanks!


(IMG:style_emoticons/default/thanks.gif) Good luck with all your music making! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wub.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/party1.gif)

[corenfa]

ffliwt - I hope you'll stay, but I understand it may be hard to if you feel uncomfortable here now.

The problem with policing "wolf-pack behaviour" is that it is hard to tell when someone is really being hounded and when it is simply a few people disagreeing with what one person said. I've no idea which happened here (could be neither). The danger is then that people become reluctant to disagree because they're afraid that they'll be seen as ganging up on someone.

I dither a lot about whether to post dissenting opinions (including this one) because I'm afraid that it might be taken the wrong way.

[Listener]

ffliwt - I hope you'll stay, but I understand it may be hard to if you feel uncomfortable here now.

The problem with policing "wolf-pack behaviour" is that it is hard to tell when someone is really being hounded and when it is simply a few people disagreeing with what one person said. I've no idea which happened here (could be neither). The danger is then that people become reluctant to disagree because they're afraid that they'll be seen as ganging up on someone.

I dither a lot about whether to post dissenting opinions (including this one) because I'm afraid that it might be taken the wrong way.[***]

[***]Well if it helps, your comment on (my) term above is justified - it was probably over the top in this instance, but I was leaping to the defence of what I saw as a weaker 'animal' that two challengers had - possibly unwittingly - brought down. While I used 'wolf-pack' deliberately and am happy to be challenged for that, not all of us are battle-hardened to the need to consider exactly what terms we use when speaking or writing, especially under emotional conditions.