Just had word from one of my adult pupils - she is not continuing with me anymore! - in her words, she has "got fixed up" with a teacher closer to her home.
She was coming to me from a fair distance, and it was taking 45 minutes either way on top of an hour's lesson (an hour because it was more worthwhile with the distance).. She was a beginner pianist, and was not perhaps the most natural musician. She had some real plus points though, and always worked hard, achieving more than the average adult beginner....
So whilst I of course wished her the best of luck with her piano studies, i cannot help feel slightly bitter that i have done all the hard work getting her to read, play and enjoy music and achieve great things. I don't know the teacher she is going to, but i feel convinced that they would not do a similar job to what I did. If they had been presented with her from scratch then i am sure the outcome would have been rather different... This is compounded by the fact that she told me that:
"i don't think, or at least... no, i know that it won't be the same. I had a lesson with him last week just to see (i was still teaching her at the time!! - what a weird feeling!!).. and i know that it's not going to be as good, but i have to be practical"..
I had to draw on the full ten years of experience plus everything i learned on teaching training to make sure that this pupil's learning was met in every positive way possible.
It's all very sudden, and although i am really pleased that despite circumstances she is going to continue, i never expected her to just leave without warning or any kind of discussion based around the fact that she might need to look for a teacher close to home.
It is as difficult in taking on someone else's "work" as it is to give away something you have fostered carefully and intelligently..
Does anyone agree? Anyone felt like this before?
Apologies, it's been a strange evening..