QUOTE(katemorrisviolin @ Dec 15 2011, 10:33 AM)
It's really hard to stay in control when people say to me "you've not got to worry about your weight any more, go on have that cake/chocolate/drink etc".
Good luck everyone.
This I understand so well - it is really hard to understand for some people that, from obvious health risks aside, there is also such a thing as the weight that makes you feel best about yourself.
I used to have the opposite problem. Because of the unreasonable pressure on performers, and also the immensely exhausting work, I was roundabout 130lbs (I am 5'10) at my skinniest. And I was really unhappy with it and at some point blatantly refused to keep playing along...
The weight I feel best at is between 140 and 145lbs - since I stopped performing and just teach, I put on 10lbs (155lbs). That's still slim in most people's books, but I didn't feel great with it - it's not about the weight as such, it's more about not being toned. So I started exercising again, and I lost 5lbs straightaway (more initially, but I guess that was just water). I still eat absolutely everything I like - in moderation. I eat cake and chocolate, because I think cutting out things you like just makes you feel deprived, and you end up binging at some point.
I'd still like to lose another 5lbs, but not over Christmas. It might well be that it is 10lbs again in January
Since I always had to look after my weight for stupid professional reasons, I would say one thing though:
Don't eat that low fat labelled stuff. It is usually full of sugar instead (or chemical nasties like sweeteners). Did you ever look at the label of a low fat yoghurt? Some of them have a third of your daily sugar allowance, so you are really just replacing one evil with another. It is not just about the fat if you want to lose weight (although you obviously don't want to have more than a certain amount for health reasons - some slim people are quite "fat inside" because of having too much sat fat). It's about the overall calories you consume and burn off. Your body needs dietary fat, and quite a reasonable amount of it, to function properly. Maybe up your protein a bit, and replace simple carbs with more complex ones, because both keep hunger pangs at bay, but don't cut out the fat completely (or almost). Basing your diet mainly on carbs, especially simple ones like white bread, wreaks havoc with your metabolism, and you'll feel hungry much quicker.
You can virtually eat and drink everything you like (some things in moderation of course), but you need to exercise/be more active if you want to lose weight, and you also need to know your calorie allowances - they can vary wildly! A woman who is obese can still lose weight having more than the ominous 2000 calories a day, whilst a 5'2 woman who is slim but sedentary will definitely put on weight having 2000 calories a day. Get away from the averages you are being forcefed by the media and the food industry every day, and find out your own allowances, if need be with help of your GP.
Also know WHAT you eat. Some things are considered healthy, but they are nutritionally very, er, "dense". I am not a fan of calorie counting in general, but I think some people need to get a better idea of the nutritional values of the stuff they eat and drink (the idea that e.g. alcohol has no part in putting on weight being a prime example). Someone in my closer circle of friends was constantly surprised she wouldn't lose weight, because she would only eat "healthy stuff". Looking at it, she sort of did, but still too much of it, and some of it also very calorific - nuts and unsweetened mueslis e.g. are considered "good foods", but if you have quite generous portions of it, they have a lot of calories.
If you need to lose a lot of weight, maybe really ask your GP for a plan, I am sure they can help.
Best of luck to everyone!