There are a lot of people out there trying to make cash from making others feel guilty, and one such set of folks is the Time Management Guru set. Under the guise of saving time and effort, more and more machines are invented to take loads off us, then what actually happens is that we're put under pressure to spend the same time on whatever chore they tell us will be less onerous, making our houses look more sparkly, our bodies more groomed, our clothing less crumpled, etc etc etc.
We now have washing machines, but do far more washing than was usual in the past - okay, I'd not want to go back to handwashing...but we also have vacuum cleaners, and feel we ought to vacuum once a day, or twice a day, or twice a week, and feel bad if we've not done so for a week...or two weeks, or whatever. Same with personal grooming - women used to be able to leave body hair alone, now even men are ripping it out in the interests of Body Beautiful.
I have spells of time when my house would make the House Beautiful set's collective upper lip curl - and I don't care, it's my house, they can lump it. At least my kids won't have oversensitive immune systems cos they've encountered Dirt, and they won't end up totally freaked out over something being a bit untidy, when actually, what does it really really matter?
Okay, so I'm a bit chaotic about my admin too - but I do the stuff which matters, that I don't let go (at least, not unless depressed, but that's another story). I don't write lists, because I found I was attending more to the creation and management of the list than actually doing anything about it, but I do set an alarm on my Thunderbird calendar on the computer, to jog my memory about the things which have deadlines. And the rest fits in, as best as it can. My kids have grown up knowing that perfection is a bit of a theoretical concept, but also comfortable with the idea that it is okay to fall short of (usually other peoples') standards now and again, and that it doesn't make the world stop to do so