QUOTE(corenfa @ Jun 25 2012, 09:55 AM)
QUOTE(dotted quaver @ Jun 25 2012, 08:37 AM)
When I'm playing at weddings, I ask the Bride and Groom-to-be if there's anything they'd like. Meditation would be lovely, but probably not long enough. In my experience, 'signing the register' can take up to 23 minutes!!
Worth asking how long they expect it to take - I played at a wedding last year and it took about 5 minutes, which is what they told me it would take, but sometimes it takes a while to get everyone over to where the signing is happening and they may want a few photos.
I think this can be a tricky part of the service and it maybe worth checking with the bride and groom how they see this working.
In some weddings I've been to, the signing bit has been a bit of a free for all with congregation chatting, getting up, taking photos. The music at this point was just background music and all attention was focussed on the bride and groom.
In other services it has been clear that they have asked someone to play/ sing for a reason and that they expect people to listen and there will be an opportunity for photos AFTER the piece has finished. In this case 5 minutes will be fine and they may want some more incidental type music to cover photos at the end.
I wouldn't suggest one approach is better than the other as long as everybody involved has the same expectation and the congregation are given appropriate guidance. I remember one wedding where the person playing during the signing was obviously getting more and more annoyed that everyone was focussing on taking photos of the happy couple rather than listening to him, on the other hand I've also been to one where the soloist later confided that she had been expecting to just be "background" music and was rather disconcerted to find the whole congregation attentively listening to her!
Hope it goes well!