QUOTE(andante_in_c @ Jul 13 2012, 08:04 AM)
I'm not sure that shyness and self-consciousness are the same as introversion.
I tend to draw my energy from other people, which makes me an extrovert, but am both shy in social situations and self-conscious when performing. My husband, on the other hand, is quite introvert, and needs to be his own to recharge his batteries, but he is much more at ease when he does perform.
Oh, I totally agree!
Introverts enjoy being on their own, that's not the same as being shy in social situations. You can be shy and still absolutely hate being alone - I guess that's more the difference between being alone and feeling lonely, and both don't necessarily have anything to do with being an introvert or extrovert.
I wouldn't say I'm shy, I just prefer activities with an inward focus to social gatherings and a lot of external stimulation. That's why I personally also think that being a musician/artist is something many introverts are actually drawn to, and there's no reason why they shouldn't be reasonably good at it - quite the opposite actually. Artistry requires a lot of introspection in my opinion - something most introverts are usually good at
The problem often arises when an introvert doesn't have the chance to retreat anymore, or not enough for what they need to feel at ease. Whether this is the case for a musician has, imho, nothing to do with the instrument (I played the violin, too, and never felt exposed for instance, but I did on the piano. This had more to do with my shortcomings as a player though
), but with the exact professional situation you find yourself in.
I never was bored on my own, not as a child, not now. This is how I recharge. I also don't worry about that these days and am comfortable with the way I am, but I agree with soccermum that there is a lot of pressure on introvert kids - they are often the ones who don't "fit in": They are deemed shy or weird because they can seem quiet and a bit withdrawn. They are deemed nerdy or geeky because they have hobbies like classical music and prefer reading to going out. They are often (not always!) good at school because they don't need external motivation to work and study - they do it because they enjoy it. All these traits make you a good subject for bullying. I also agree that many introverts are quite skilled at "putting on" extrovert traits to avoid this and "fit in". It feels like acting though - Sherrie Haynie put it quite rightly when she said:
?Often, introverts describe how they interact with the outside world as a performance, and acting is work. ?Similar to professional actors, introverts may appear enthusiastic, lively and entertaining. ?However, many describe the experience as being ?on stage? ? for an introvert to spend a significant amount of their day using non-preferred characteristics requires a great deal of energy.?
There are quite interesting studies being done on what causes introvert/extrovert traits. The main difference seems to be that extroverts crave sensory stimulation, whilst introverts find that exhausting. This
is quite an interesting link.