Dear Cornell & Gwen,
Wah I finally realise I am not the only one in Singapore that's facing all these problems.... phew
Tell you girls something.... I was hyper stress for this year's practical exam that took place in August for my students. What happened was there were about three groups of students (2 boys and another family of 3 sisters), were playing terribly even til eve of exam. Ok it goes like this.... 1 boy (13 yr old) who is having some mood and behaviour problem since young (taught him for 4 years) just simply dont want to practice!!!
He has this mood swing that force me to give him many breaks through that hour lesson. He needs to go away and "relax" a little or else he will grumble or simply sit there not moving. I have no choice but gave in. How to perform in such condition???
I even had extra lessons with him on Sunday to help him through.... The reason we sent him to exam is to try to motivate him and let him have something to look forward to and know where he stand. His doctor encourage him to continue with the lesson so we thought ok, let's press on and see how. But.... sigh.... mistake ar....
Then another boy (14 yr old), he's a simply dont care one. He can come to me and say, "hey Ms Lim, nevermind lar, why you so stress....??? Look at me, I am so relax!!!" Wah biang, worse, his mom can just simply laugh it off and say "aiya, he's like that one lar.... nevermind, let him fail if he didnt want to make effort"....My goodness, it's kind of relieve to hear this from a parent but to have a student fail exam is definately not what I want!!!
Then this family whom I am teaching all their 4 girls, 3 of the older ones signed up for exam (mom wants them to). Simply dont take instructions too. When the 2nd one plays, I felt like burying myself in a hole!!!!
Anyway, lucky I wasn't there on the exam day, if not I am too ashame to face anyone there..... Soemtimes they really makes me wonder if I am the problem or they are???
As for normal lessons, I also try to input other stuff then only classical now.... I play duets with students too.... Most love it and lessons become more interesting. Gwen, can you recommend more duet books for me? Me too have thousands of problems with teaching but I am so glad to be in this topic and found you all who wants to share also.... now I am breath better. Please stay tune girls..... I hope the conversation wont just die off from here. I dont want to be lost soul anymore.
Cornell, some parents are like this, when they give comments like this, they makes us feel that we have not done our job well enough or we are not qualified enough. Sigh...
Oh btw Gwen, yes I agree bringing students two grades a year is ok but what I actually meant was (maybe I didnt explain clearly in the previous post) I heard from an ex student that one teacher told her that she can be grade 5 within 3 years and this student is not a very hardworking one so that makes me think...... Can meh????
Now the student went under her already.... no hard feeling lar but because the girl was with me for 3 years since she was 4 yr old and she got so used to my leniency so dont want to practice, I've got no choice but gave up. I also come across a teacher who said she can bring student from beginner to grade 4 within a year. That's amazing but makes me feel lousy leh... hee hee
To me, it's just so amazing because there ae so much techinques to learn at the beginning stage and probably, it's easy for grade 1 & 2 but when students go on to grade 3 and above, demand gets more difficult.... what are (Cornell & Gwen) your views on this then?