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gazdudeuk
Hi

I was very saddened to hear on thursday night, at the loss of one of my pupils who died in wednesday night in his sleep.

My thoughts go out to his family, at this sad time.
It was a big shock to me as he only had a lesson the friday before and was well...
Car Expert
Sorry to hear about that! sad.gif

Car Expert
saxlover
Oh my. I hope his family are ok. Very sorry.
Amber
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. What a terrible shock for you. Kindest thoughts you you, and his family/friends.

Gentle hug (if that's ok?)

Amber
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jo.clarinet
How awful! I remember when my son was in the Sixth Form, one of his classmates suddenly died - it turned out she had some rare blood disorder, I think. It was terribly upsetting - everyone was just in shock and could hardly believe it. And it always seems so much worse when it is a young person....... sad.gif
chopet
Oh my. Thats shocking. Im so sorry to hear about that. sad.gif
gazdudeuk
thanks so much for your messages....

the lady gave me hug this morning and asked me if i would play amazing grace on the organ, but i told her i couldnt, as it will be 1st time ive been to crem since my dad died..she didnt mind.
Saxophonist
Oh my, thats Awful! im so sorry sad.gif
chocolatedog
It must have been a big shock - thinking of you, and of course the pupil's family at this time.
andante_in_c
I'm really sorry to hear that. How very shocking for you and for his family.

One of my students died from cancer two years ago, so I have some experience of this. It is so tragic when a young life is cut short.
katyjay
Sorry to hear this. Thinking of you, and of your pupil's family.

Katyjay
frumpybabes
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. It is always hard to hear about young life ending.

I had a similar situation where one of my students sibling died, she never told me this. In fact her dad called the day he died and told me that she couldnt attend her lesson the next day. I said there were no lesson as it was 1/2 term. They never told me the reasons why. That same week I read in the local paper of a young man who died in horrible circumstances. I felt bad for the family but it never occurred to me it was a family I knew.

It was about 2 weeks later that her mum told me, only because the daughter couldnt make her piano lesson as the funeral was the same day and could I possible reschedule. She had been coming to all her lessons in that time.

After I found out I didnt know really what to say, she still hadnt told me herself and was carrying on as if nothing happened. I couldnt even say I was sorry for her loss as she ever told me, she came to me to get away from all that going on around her. She tells me now that she knew her mum told me and she was glad that I hadnt said anything as she didnt want me to feel sorry for her. It is only a year later now that she talks about it. She was only 14 at the time. Apparently coming to piano helped her to carry on with her daily life.

thinking of you.


Helen
Oh no that's awful. sad.gif I'm so sorry to hear that.

frumpybabes: A 13 year old at my old school died of sudden child death syndrome, and her friends and class carried on coming to school as their way of getting over it.
Storini
A fairly young work colleague of mine was recently killed in a hang-gliding accident. These things do give you quite a shock: it's so sad for the family of course. sad.gif
nicki_flute
Oh very sorry to hear that sad.gif Someone at our school collapsed and died a week or so ago.
maggiemay
So sorry to hear your sad news. What a shock for you.

Thoughts and best wishes.
oboist
I am very sorry to hear your news - a terrible shock for you all. In this day and age when medical science is so advanced we tend to forget that nasty word "death" and when it comes unexpectedly at an early age, it's always an awful shock. (As I'm a trained Bereavement Counsellor, I have some idea of what you're all going through.)

My prayers for you and your student's family and I hope the funeral goes ok for you all. If this pupil's death and funeral evoke memories of your own father's death, do seek some help if you need it for yourself. CRUSE will always help if they can and so should a local church minister.

This will be a difficult time for you all but, if you feel able, do stay in touch with the family for a while at least. A phone call, or if it's easier, a letter in a few week's time to see how they are could well mean a lot to them - you don't have to say much, just showing you're still thinking of them when many others will have moved on in the busyness of their own lives, is likely to be very special for them. You will know the family and the situation best - some carry on as if nothing's happened, others go into complete decline. We all work out grief in our own ways and in our own time but people who show genuine care are rarely dismissed.

Thinking of you very much at this sad time. sad.gif
zoda
I'm sorry to hear such sad news gazdudeuk. I hope you're OK. Was this their only child?
sarah-flute
gadudeuk, how sad... thinking of you and that family sad.gif
Semele
gazdudeuk

I'm very sorry to hear of this very,very sad loss. My thoughts are with you.
Rainbow
I'm really sorry to hear about this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family.
noodle
Thats really sad as well as a terrible shock. Thinking of you and the family.
gazdudeuk
Hi

thanks again for the messages... the man was 60-65 but still very young..and totally unexpected
george
Sorry to hear of your loss gazdudeuk. My thoughts are with you and your pupils family.
samson
Sorry to hear that, our heartfelt condolences
gazdudeuk
once again, thanks so much for your messages....iam attending the funeral on friday afternoon... sad.gif
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