Thanks, Sarah, I really just want to understand her that's all (not really from a musical point of view but rather expressionwise). This is an issue of expression (general, not musical although they are related) and I appreciate your reassurance very much.
I recall that when she drew for the first time in her little life, it was at a mums and tots club, the lady who looked after infants/her that day was an art support teacher and she was so impressed by her unusual drawing of constant circles all over that she came up to me in the next room and swore excitedly that she's so expressive and creative that she'll grow up to be an artist! I gave her a weird look! Apparently, she said all kids start with line drawings first and it is the artistically gifted children that begin with curves and circles.

Well, she's got one half wrong - VN did turn out to be creative and yes, she drew abstract art at school from 3 which absolutely astonish her nursery school! Black cat daydreaming in a flurry of myriad hazy colours in one piece or two 100% pure white snakes with tiny black dot eyes crawling on a dozen shades and colours quilt! It has never occurred to them how a child can see such a thing as 2 pure white snakes. There is of course no such thing. VN had just imagined it! This was strongly discouraged at nursery and school and as a result, VN was then "taught" how to re-draw "conventionally" by her teachers so that she won't look like the odd one out so she'd belong.
But expressive? No. Very very shy. I just popped into her room last night and asked whether I could have a recital and she said - No, mum, I don't want you to see my expression but you can hear me elsewhere - and I replied - OK, no problem as long as you are not shy in your JG audition. She'll be thinking of very colourful candy floss and I hope that's okay!

Her teacher did say something abt it being strange to pitch such an emotionally mature piece at grade 5 since lots of students of that level are still pretty young.
Hmmm, what do they know of falling in love, eh?