It's not even worthy of an 'argh'.

How about an 'Eek' then?

*hugs* &

Happened to my flute a few years ago and it was hideous. I hope you can get it mended soon.

I could probably say something much worse, but of course that would be very out-of-character .

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AAARRGGGHHH! Number 1 son has just had braces put on and can't play his trumpet he says - and is messing around with it - can't practice of course!!!!

What's the matter, Miss Ross? You sounded really happy earlier on the Poetry thread.

Re-typed it all back into the forum.



hope you get it sorted out soon andante.

All I ever seem to do at the moment is complain, but I don't want to seem rude for not answering you.

When I posted last night my mum had just 'gone mad' at me for what I felt were unfair reasons. Basically, I'd let my brother do something I probably shouldn't have, and she told me I was weak for not being able to stand up to him. Whilst she probably had a point (he's almost 13, so about 4 years younger than me), she then went on to say that I was never going to manage to stand on my own two feet when I (if all goes to plan) go to uni next September. Again, perhaps she has a fair point but she struck a nerve.

I've already compromised on what I want to do next year because she felt I wasn't pushing myself hard enough. I really wanted to train to be a nurse, but this was completely frowned upon so I spent this summer desperately trying to work out what I was good at etc. I came up with English and Music. But no, for some reason neither of my parents want me to study English. When you said, "You sounded really happy earlier on the poetry thread" you were right - I'm happiest when doing something with words, reading poetry, writing, learning a new language. That's not to say that Music doesn't make me 'happy' either, it just frustrates me that they can't consider things from my point of view. I don't think they know how unlikely I am to be accpeted to study Music - I'm not exactly a virtuoso and I haven't got the ABRSM certificates that most universities ask for.

If we were closer then perhaps I could explain things to her, but as it is I can't see myself ever being able to. I haven't yet plucked up the courage to tell her that I'm undergoing tests for a number of conditions, because I can imagine her reaction.

I sound totally against my mum in this post, and I'm truly not - I think she's amazing and would do anything for her, but at the moment I feel like I need her support and I'm too scared to ask for it! I'm already petrified about having to leave home next year, not to mention having to get the right grades to get there in the first place - being told that I'm going to fail anyway isn't really helping.

That said, I'm so much calmer than I was 3 weeks ago and I would like to thank anyone who posted a reply to me then - it was more appreciated than I can explain .

Aaaargh. reason for scream is in CISD. I'm bored fed up and just want to get better.

Parents seem to have this habit of going a bit daft about 11 or 12 months before one is due to start at university. Commonly, they disagree with choice of course, or choice of university (too hard to get into, so being unrealistic; too easy to get into, so not being challenged). Essentially, like you, they're stressed about you going to university and their apparent criticisms or saying all the wrong things is a side effect of this. And because you're making decisions right now, they fret about trying to get the decisions right. My advice would be to stick up for what you want to do and where you want to do it and fire off the UCAS form - you have to go to university, not them. Then, as soon as the decision making part has evaporated, they start to calm down and become a lot more useful....

That's really reassuring YAP, thanks!

FWIW I think YAP's advice is spot on

You are the one who will be spending three or four years at university, not your mum, so you must decide for yourself what you want to study. You can't let your parents dictate things at this stage, though you can and should listen to their advice. You can study nursing at university - my Goddaughter did a 3 year course at Nottingham and is now happily working as a children's nurse. It's very important to be sure about what you want to do; don't embark on a degree in Music or English (or both) unless you're sure it's the right thing for you.

I'm so sorry to hear that you feel you can't talk to your mum. Could you write her a letter about how you feel, or wouldn't it help? I would hate it if my daughter didn't tell me she was having tests - are you sure your mum wouldn't be very hurt if she found out you hadn't told her?

I'm pleased to hear you're feeling better than you were three weeks ago and hope things continue to improve for you.

I'd like to go to King's - I know I have a chance of getting into Cambridge, but I don't think I'm mature enough to be leaving home yet


I fell exactly the same as you - I kind of wanted to see if I was good enough for Oxbridge...
I've applied to Cambridge now, but I really hope I don't get an offer - if I do, it's going to be so much worse with my parents, and there is no way they'd let me reject a Cambridge place.....

I've had an hour to mull this over now, and I'm not as dead-set against listening to them as I appeared. (I sound like some terrible, uncaring daughter which honestly is not the case!). There are 5 spaces on the UCAS form, and only 3 which I definitely want to use. Studying Music is certainly something I'm interested in, I just doubt I'd make it through the auditions, but there's nothing to stop me applying. And the course I'm primarily interested in is 80:20 English:Music, which sounds ideal.

I know she'll be hurt that I haven't told her, and for that reason I'm waiting until I know, and also for a time when she hasn't got a mountain of other stuff to worry about. Despite how I came across in my original post, I genuinely value the opinions of both of my parents, but I do also realise that I have to decide for myself. Thanks for your advice .

You're anything but uncaring - if anything it sounds like you're trying not to add to your mum's current 'woes'. Most parents want the best for their kids and I'm sure your mum is no exception - it just sometimes doesn't come across that way.

Hopefully the holiday will give you all the opportunity to relax and talk. I genuinely wish you all the best.

I applied to Cambridge, all those years ago , and didn't get a place.

I got there for interview and everyone else was so desperate to get in that by the time I got to the interview I was less than impressed and I suspect they could tell

Remember, when it comes to accepting and declining offers... it is YOU who has to fill in the form - YOU who has to do the exams - YOU who has to spend 3 or 4 years of your life in the place.

I have a few friends who're at or who have been at Oxbridge, and the majority really enjoyed it. But they went there because THEY wanted to, and because, when offered a place, THEY wanted to go enough to put in the work.

PLEASE remember it is your life. The school may want Oxbridge candidates to make them feel good, your parents may think it's a more prestigious uni... but if the place and the course don't suit you, then it is you that has to suffer. So stand your ground!!!

(Of course, you may go and look and go "oh wow I want to come here", and if so, good for you. Just don't let someone else make that decision for you!)


That's how it's come across to me, too, Floss.

It's my husband's birthday and I got him a wonderful present that was posted first class over a week ago and it isn't here yet!
I know there's been the postal strike; I had it posted to me at work so I had the maximum chance of getting it without getting a 'while you were out' card and also to stop him from seeing it.
Luckily he was working early today, so he left the house before I got up so I didn't have to see him empty handed. I shall nip in to town during lunch break and buy him a birthday cake so at least he has something.

And I suppose there is still the afternoon post, we do get an afternoon delivery at work, so by 2pm I'll know for definite - but in the meantime ARGH!!

Once I gave a friend an empty picture frame with a note saying "Pressie to follow" because I hadn't finished it on time! How about an empty box containing a similar note?

Thanks petrat, we've done things like that before so I know it'll be OK if I do that.
Funny thing is, I have bought him two engravings - so the present was going to be 'here are two pictures + IOU a visit to the framing shop for two frames of your choice'. So now it'll be IOU a present, and then when he gets the present it'll be IOU the frames

it's all my own fault, but i have about two years' worth of geography to learn before tomorrow 8.30am. and economic geography is a rival to anything on the boredom scale. my handwriting has deteriorated so much that i have given up making written study notes and am now typing everything. i don't have the energy to scream right now, so i'll be pathetic and whimper instead.

whimper...

Hope you manage to get it sorted out.

I've just knocked a cup of coffee over the sofa and the bag containing my theory books


No prizes for guessing which I mopped up first

I am getting really worried about my son's Cambridge Application Form, which was supposed to be with the college by Monday 15th. We posted the wretched thing on 5th October, 1st class, recorded delivery, and it still hasn't landed. All the colleges are aware of the postal strike and say as long as the applications were posted before the deadline they will consider them, but I'm now starting to think that Royal Mail have actually lost it.

Unfortunately, we didn't photocopy anything, so would have to start again from scratch, and with half-term looming, I don't know whether to suggest son gets the Head of Sixth Form to redo her reference now in case. Sure it wouldn't be popular with her, as it's a big school and she has a lot of UCAS forms to get through.

What shall I do???

Got your priorities right there...



BerkshireMum - what did the Admissions Office suggest? Would they accept a re-submitted application?

I e-mailed yesterday to ask for advice but they haven't replied (they do ask you not to contact them at this time as they're so busy, but I panicked a bit). I asked them to contact us if they want him to re-submit - it's just that if they say on Friday that they do, we won't be able to resubmit for ages, as the first school day back is 31st October. I think if it weren't for the strikes it would be more obvious that the original application had been lost; the Royal Mail customer services man said we should wait another week as there's a large backlog of mail.

I had an item delivered today that was postmarked on the 3rd and sent first class

I wish I'd seen this last night instead of going to bed! Perhaps it isn't lost after all then? I felt worse, because I found out yesterday that another mum who works at my school had actually taken her daughter's application all the way to Cambridge! (If she'd known my son was applying, she would have taken his too, but she didn't.) Which made me feel awful having trusted ours to the post.

I just wish I knew it would arrive soon - it's worse than waiting for AB exam results!

I had an item today from Cambridge that had taken a week.

Probably no use at all to anyone ! but just in case..

ARGHHHHH

Hahaa, why do I leave coursework and my room till the last minute?
I need to completely empty my room by sunday and decide on colours and furniture
Also need coursework done by tomorrow!
Arghh
oh and I forgot about packing as well

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

I'm having a SIGNIFICANT birthday tomorrow and I feel so old and grey and wrinkly!!!!!

I don't want to let go the current decade and am going to spend all day reminding myself I'm not the next zero up YET - not until 5.40pm tomorrow!!!!!


(sympathy, please I need sympathy......)

It's a great age to be!! I think my 40's are my best decade so far!

**Lots of sympathy anyway, lottie, and have a great birthday tomorrow xx**

40's the new 30 - so they keep telling us!

*Roll on next year...*

I do wish you would lay off the grey and wrinkly!!! Have a great day tomorrow!

Member of the over-fifties club


Just to update you, we rang Royal Mail customer services again today (still nothing online) and have been told the CAF was delivered on 12th October, so I needn't have worried. Son rang the college just to check (on the advice of his school) and, yes, they did have it. They must have a very stern policy on not replying to e-mails, as they still haven't answered my Tuesday one - meanies!!!!

Anyway, I no longer need to be on this thread. Thanks for your support

ARRRRRRRGGHHHHHH!!!!

soph15, whats up man? You're always in trouble and you dont say whats wrong.

lots, but my sister was the problem just.

Is there anyone you can talk to? because the fact that you have to come here to let off is worrying! It makes me think you might be in need of help!

I am getting the help I need at the moment thanks.

Very polite

I try to be...

hmm, I just read your profile.

Let me say Soph, I am really terrible at helping people but basically I didnt want to just ignore you and I just hope that people have and will respond to you. I hope you dont think me asking if theres someone you can talk to meant you cant talk about your problems here. Hope you find rest soon.

Thank you, a lot has happened lately, but I am hoping things will change.

I'm so angry and upset I can barely scream. I had an argument on my recent trip, and it was pretty bad... I'd put it out of my mind but I've just been reminded grr. I'm most annoyed about how I lost it completely and put myself at fault. I've never done anything like that before, I actually hit someone.

Basically I was on a trip with a buddy group of five, all friends of mine, except one, a boy who I will call S, who seems to hate me. The first day of the trip, S made a snide, patronising remark, and I was going to try and make a joke about it, so I opened my mouth... then a friend, L, turned around to me and shouted at me for being argumentative
I think she did it because she knew another friend and I had just had a row about him calling me argumentative and she knew I was sensitive about it...

From then on S was mean and condescending constantly, because he knew everyone would stick up for him... and then when we went shopping in a little German town for an hour, he got a foot long sub from subway, and I wanted to go in a music shop - he had a temper tantrum at the thought of being left outside, and me and another friend (Sarah, because it's a common enough name, and I can't have two S's) were annoyed that the only shop we could go in was Subway - which you get in our own town!

We were just talking about it, and L burst into tears, glared at me and said everyone hated her. Suddenly everyone was mad at me - I felt terrible, I hadn't shouted or been mean to her, and I couldn't think how I'd upset her, just by complaining to Sarah. Later, however, I had reason to doubt her sincerity, and not just because there were no tears on her face and her mascara hadn't smudged when she looked up from S's shirt.

Then the next day we were at the reichstag (German houses of parliament, very big high building...) and we went to the roof, really high up and were laughing and running around and shouting (including L).

Then we left and went to the TV tower, another very tall building. and despite her being fine at the reichstag, when we suggested going up to the revolving restaurant (we were already at the second to top floor, the restaurant was the top!) L said she was afraid of heights, but that we could go... so we did, and then when we got down she said we'd missed a panic attack (yeah right, in ten minutes?) and got at us for ditching her, and stopped talking to me and Sarah. I sincerely have great sympathy for those with true phobias, but how can you be fine at the edge of one high building, then terrified in the middle of another?

Anyway, the next day, we went shopping again, and me and Sarah wanted to shop properly and L didn't, so she manipulated the other boy in our group into going out of the centre of town to mcdonalds, so we all had to go... then she suggested we didn't do much shopping, because she wasn't in the mood. Needless to say, S agreed... but me and Sarah did want to go shopping.
Rather than S saying "I don't want to shop much either" he basically tried to give me and Sarah PERMISSION to go to one H&M shop before we sat down and didn't do any more shopping (for three hours...) I suggested (I know, not mature... but...) that our buddy group split up, that Sarah and I went shopping, and they went and had a coffee. In fact L had suggested this to me earlier.

Despite the fact that it was her suggestion, when I brought it up, L went mad, calling me selfish and egotistical. After everything she'd done, she was calling me selfish... and I went mad I started saying mean things, which, though I still think them, I feel incredibly ashamed of actually saying. I said: "L what I think is selfish is pulling pathic guilt trips and manipulation to get your own way like you have been doing for the whole trip! You have had absolutely everything you want just by making people feel sorry for you and it's absolutely disgusting, Sarah, I'm going, you don't have to come if you don't want to."

Sarah said she did want to, but that she didn't want to leave it unresolved with everyone angry, and suddenly S piped up. S is the most patronising person I know and he said "Go on, just go, we don't want you here."
I looked at Sarah, and as she was opening her mouth to talk, S said "see you're obviously not going anywhere, you're just pathetically bluffing. Stop being selfish, we don't want to shop, so stop being so immature, we're going to find a café".
And I hit him. Three times actually... I can't believe I actually hit someone, I've never hit anyone before... I mean I do hit like a girl (I am a girl!) but that's no excuse... He just made me so angry and upset.

Then I stormed out, because I was crying, and I didn't want anyone to see me since I'd just accused L of using tears for manipulation... I would've been such a hypocrite if I'd stayed, though I didn't pretend to cry, I was truly upset. Sarah followed me and we went shopping, though a little half-heartedly, until we got scared of the trouble we'd be in, and told the teachers that I'd stormed off by myself (they understood and said we'd be fine anyway...)

Now everyone hates me, and since I've said all the nasty things I did and said (hitting someone, and saying mean things) I bet everyone on here will hate me too.
Actually though, that's such a long rant, people probably won't read it. I'm just so angry with myself for putting myself in the wrong, and angry with them for being so mean, and upset and just horrible.

Rant over, sorry, I've probably taken up the rest of the page.

Lucky045, I just want to say that I've read it. And I sympathise.

I don't hate you, I'd doubt if anyone else here does either.

You will have to apologise for hitting, that's the proper and dignified thing to do. And then I'd suggest staying out of S's and L's way for the time being.

It's a rough time for you just now, but it will pass, honest.

omg, poor you. They were being really unfair. (I did read the whole thing by the way)

Thanks, I've already apologised for hitting him... he glared at me, but that was as expected really. L isn't a particularly close friend, and S never was a friend, but it's difficult when you know exactly five people in a country and two of them won't talk to you. I'm glad I'm back at home now with all my other friends.



Thanks... I didn't feel as though it was fair and I'm still angry and upset, but I wasn't sure if I was actually being biased or whether they were right and I was being selfish.

Poor you



As Katyjay said, it will pass.