Oh how awful

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Bag and I just found out that someone we know well (early 40s) lost her husband just before Christmas - he took his own life - and she has two young children...


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How very very sad. One does wonder why this sort of thing happens.

Minor compared to above.

I've just been onto concert-diary.com to update a concert listing, Something I've been doing since 2007. I have the promoter account and I've paid for the listings. It seems that the chairman has forgotten about this and has instructed the publicity team to do it. My updates have been rejected due to duplication with another submission.

Don't have a problem with that. It's just that we discussed this last October and I went ahead and paid for the stuff. Feeling moderately hacked off. I'm not so flush with spare time I can afford to go chasing this one around.

That's definitely not nice, Tenor Viol. I don't suppose the chairman did it on purpose, but it's still frustrating for you to be set aside like that. The only bright side to it is that at least the listings have been updated - usually what happens is that two people each think the other is doing something, so it falls through the net.

Just another irritation

Four consecutive emails this morning a mother wanting to reschedule her 4 children today and tomorrow. None of it her fault and she is desperate that they should all get their lesson. Lots of thanks and apologies and then another mail saying the eldest has now admitted to having come home from boarding school for the holiday without his music and asking if I will please I please bawl him out!!

Just a little aaarrggh but......

Really hurt my neck somehow

Working really hard at the moment which is both good and bad. I'd currently love to win the lottery (don't even play so that won't happen ) and become a member of the nouveau riche ... Just think how many cars I could buy ....

I joined this council sponsored keep fit group (as I have a very sedantary lifestyle and may be in the early stages of osteoarthritis) and two days afterwards I still ache but I feel so much better for getting out of the house.

I hope your neck stops hurting soon Pixieporsche. Try some Deep heat or Voltarol gel.

Today just gets worse.

Now my tutor has e-mailed to postpone my viol lesson tonight, which I was looking forward to

TenorViol, I've just noticed it's your birthday today!

Many happy returns!!

And from me.

Hope things improve soon.

And from me too.

Thank you for your wishes. 52 today. Doesn't seem long since I was 50, or 40, or 30...

I'm off this week to use up some holiday before end of the holiday year - I usually go skiing in January which uses it up but couldn't afford it this year. Trouble is, that other date is this week and I don't enjoy that one at all.

My last conversation in work last Friday was the one saying zero pay rise this year etc

My brother will be 50 at the weekend ( ) and he's gone away for a long weekend with his wife. My nephews will be running rings round my mum (the nephews are capable of looking after themselves at nearly 16 and 17 but I think my brother wants to ensure that my youger nephew's socialising is kept under control ).

So, I'm feeling a bit out of it one way or another. Things like my viol lesson getting cancelled just add to the general air of gloom.

for TenorViol. Sometimes it's the things that aren't that much individually that all gang up on you and make things just all too much

I had this a few months ago - interview for a promising job cancelled less than 24 hours before the interview due to a "delay in finalising the funding". They were supposed to contact me when the funding was finalised and I never heard from them again...

However... I now have that job. The person who was in charge of the project moved organisations and a few months later the post was re-advertised with her new employer. I nearly didn't apply because it had been so long that I assumed it was a fix and she had waited for the person she wanted before advertising again.

Don't give up Blackbird77. I know that it is totally demoralising (been there, done that ), but the right job will come up.

I may have been misinformed about the exam entries closing date in Gib...I was told this Friday, it appears it may have been Wednesday. I'm going to be really upset if they won't accept them tomorrow as it's DS's grade 1 piano AND theory and another student's grade 3 theory

for you. Hope they will accept them. Please let us know.


Have had a little accident on the way to work yesterday. The street looked wet but it was pure ice that made me fall with my bike. Had pain in my left shoulder, but there is nothing broken. Today all my muscles are sore.
And there was no chance to practice with the pain in my shoulder.

Ouch ouch ouch. Do check you've got full mobility in your shoulder. I had a bike accident nearly 2 years ago - no bones broken but tore a tendon which made certain arm movements utterly impossible. Hope you recover soon.

Thinking about people and their jobs and prospective employers offering then cancelling interviews - I am beginning to think that the majority of the jobs advertised online don't actually exist. My husband was made redundant at the end of October, has made loads of applications. Sometimes he gets an email to say they "will not be furthering his application" almost immediately the closing date arrives, so they haven't had a chance to even look at his application. Most don't even bother to reply. So where are all the wonderful private sector jobs that we are being told are being created? Even my 29 year old daughter with experience and qualifications can't get a job.

Ouch! Take it easy today. And yes, thankfully they accepted the entries late today - but I wasn't the only one. Phew!!

I'm having a difficult couple of days. My elderly aunt is very seriously ill in hospital after an emergency operation for an aortic aneurysm, and I've just had a phone call to say that the mother of one of my long-standing pupils has died.

Really sad to hear that...

W

Will leave work soon after only 5 hours of work today.
Great they accepted your entries!!! Phew!

Sorry to hear that.

Minor, but...woke up this morning and my left ear was a bit sore/achy, very odd. Later on in the morning, hmmmm, sore throat feeling, drink lots of water, hope it's just being thirsty. Now, definitely sore throat feeling and ear aching and headache joining in.
So it looks like I'm getting a cold just in time for Egham

I think Ive got one coming on too. Mrs is at the end of one, mainly on chest and affecting her voice, and with a headache from time to time. So I will have got it from her. And I dared not even kiss her on Valentines day !

Thanks, all. My aunt isn't doing too badly, considering. She's made it through the first 24 hours and is being taken off the ventilator, but she still has a long way to go.

Very best wishes for a speedy recovery for your aunt, andante_in_C.

I've got bit of a cold coming on too. Not surprising with a more or less 45C temperature change between Canada and Costa Rica. Doesn't seem like it's going to be too severe, thank goodness.

Bag-Hug,

x

Sorry to hear your news Andante in C. Worrying time.
Thoughts coming your way xx

Add me to the "fed up with this *forum censor won't like it* cold" group. It's been there for over a week now and left me feeling . Trying to blow an oboe when you are likely to collapse in a fit of coughing does not make for effective practice. The singing voice has been nearly non-existent for over a week and I need to get my head round a whole bunch of music for one of my choirs which is singing the services in a major cathedral next weekend and the performing choir is doing a concert the following Saturday. Learning by listening is all I can do at the moment.

There is no cure that works for the common cold. Of all the ones that don't work, I prefer whisky.

A school friend of mine told me this week that she has decided that we have never really been friends and that she "doesn't feel comfortable talking to me any more". I was her next of kin because she has fallen out with her entire family, (and pretty much everyone else she knew), decades ago. She suffers from depression and, (in my unscientific opinion), paranoia.

This is permanent. I know from the way she has dealt with other in the past that there is no going back from this. We had been friends for over 50 years although it was becoming increasingly difficult because it was a constant struggle not to say anything to upset her.

Sorry to hear this, Blackbow. To lose such a long-standing friendship must be terribly hard.

Sending you virtual hugs.

That's hard. I've seen this kind of thing happen before where people suddenly detach from a long term friendship. There's probably little you can do if they've made their mind up other than to say you're available.

I know that you are absolutely right, and I just have to get over it. She lives in another county so actually she is just gone from my life. In a way I feel stupid bleating about it, but somehow it helped to write it down.
Thanks for listening.

I have some idea how this feels. It's horrible to feel there's nothing you can really do - except let off steam here. I hope you manage to deal with it OK.

Sorry you're having to deal with this, Blackbow.

I had a really good friend through school and for about 10 years afterwards. Then she got married - and I was suddenly dropped from a great height and I never, ever knew why. I did phone her once and said, 'We must meet up again' and she just said, 'I don't think that would be a good idea' and that was that.

She still, more years later than I care to disclose, appears in my dreams. Something to do with not having satisfactory closure, I think...

Very sorry because this must be extremely hurtful for you. Can you find consolation in thinking about the 50 years during which your friendship probably meant more to her than she ever knew?It seems in this case you have been the greater giver. She might well have been much more unhappy without your support and if she is ill, as you suspect, her withdrawal from you may be quite simply outside her control and not something she would ever have done if she had been really well.

Sheer madness I think. A close member of the family wants to spend several thousand pounds of our hard earned savings on something that I consider completely wasteful. Said member wants to have a gastric band fitted. I would rather see our savings being used on something more useful, such as a new car. What should I do? This needs a large AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrgggghhhhhhhh!

Haven't had a bad week yet, I just feel like one's on the way...

let off as much steam as you want to x

worst possible end to half term. I have a cold which means i'm not going to college. i'm staying at home to get better

Why do you consider it completely wasteful? It's hardly a fashion accessory, and as far as I understand it, they don't fit them just because you ask them to, or do they? I thought you had to be morbidly obese.

This from one who is already morbidly obese with all the health problems that accompany it, has recently had a serious wake-up call and is struggling to get some of it off before it's...

... too late

Has this family member been advised by his/her doctor?

A new car is never going to be a life-saver. On the other hand...

One of my niece's had a gastric band fitted almost a year ago. She was suffering from blood clots in her lungs and legs and couldn't lose weight despite trying hard to. After *lots* of medical assessments, she was deemed fit enough to have the procedure. She now looks terrific, the blood clots have dispersed and she's generally well and happy.

My aaaagggh for the day....an infection in my wound site following a BAHA (Bone Anchored Hearing Aid) procedure two weeks ago. Just when I was hoping to go back to teaching today too.

I have just discovered that my OH is trying to siphon off my private pension, totally behind my back. I know that this won't be successful without me agreeing to it, but how dare someone even try? AAAAAAARGH!

That feels a bit better.