Bosses!

This time next week I'll know for sure if my (working) future is on the scrapheap.

Oh dear

This time next week I will know for sure how I've done in my diploma. I'm not feeling good about it, and the stress of waiting and working myself up probably isn't doing me or the baby much good! Maybe some time this century...

Sorry to hear that DC, and good luck elliewelly.

Argh

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

having a grouchy day, finding my mother very annoying (she is ill so not at work) and my brother has a skiing trip leaving this evening and has done almost none of the work to prepare for it, so she and I are having to do it. I also have to cover some of his lessons later as he hasn't bothered to tell his pupils he will be away. I hate not being given a choice in covering lessons or in what I do in the day.

I want to run away for the afternoon to avoid covering the lessons but that would be somewhat immature and at 22 I am probably not supposed to do immature things like that.

Just want to get on with some of the many many things of my own which are waiting to be done (some urgently) but my mother will not leave me alone. I only have this time now as I am supposed to be sewing name labels onto my brother's gloves.

GGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR


Moose

Well.... I had a lovely holiday in Madeira, only to go down with Shingles as soon as I get back.

Life sucks.

It's been SUCH a long week!! And I have rehearsals next week during half term as well...

AAAAARRRRGH!!!

My dog has eaten my brace!!! Why?!?

Mine chewed up two of mine until I was too embarrassed to go back to the dentist for another one

They were bite-guards, and I think made of the same material as those chewy toys you get for dogs.

I ran over the cord on my grandma's hoover so the plastic came off....

'Look, you useless piece of junk, call yourself a scanner? My Anglesey song is in 3/4 time. D'you hear? 3/4. NOT 4/4. I don't want to be spending ages correcting all your mistakes! AAAARRRRGGGHHHH!!!!!!'

Every phone call to a member of my family feels like a doctors update...

I spent £25 yesterday on a car charger for my Nokia phone. Everyone always says that Nokia chargers fit all Nokia phones. Oh no they don't.

My grandparents' chimney went on fire so now my already virtually housebound grandad can't even get out of bed because he is too cold even with full central heating on and the chimney has to be repaired so they can't have a fire.

Oh dear. How long do those things take to fix? I think ours nearly went on fire last year as I was supposed to ring the sweep then forgot about it for months...until the fire started puffing out smoke.

Could you get him a wee fan heater to keep him going - at least so he could go into other parts of the house?

Don't think it would be strong enough...he's already very poorly as he has ulcers on his legs and he was 85 last week...

Hope it gets fixed soon

An open fire makes a big difference - I usually don't put the heating on at all when I have one lit in the front room.

Thanks

A really bad few days - 1 of our 5 month old kittens disappeared on Friday afternoon. She was playing with her brother & sister on Friday morning (we handreared them so they were really affectionate kittens that never wandered very far.) Friday teatime we were going out & couldn't find her to put her in, assumed she was out exploring, later on realised no-one knew where she was . Searched all the farm buildings, then realised that she hadn't been seen since the builders had left around lunchtime. Husband then remembers that he removed the brother from their flatbed lorry before they left but hadn't thought to check where the other kittens were....
Eventually contacted the builder on saturday - difficult as we had no address for him & he wasn't answering his mobile. Drove the 15 miles to his house to search round there. Knocked on countless doors, & at 1 they said they remembered seeing a young cat matching her description, on their front garden, on Friday evening. They remebered the cat was crying & wanted to come in....but hadn't seen it since. It's bitterly cold at nights & she was very much a house kitten - not knowing what has happened to her & where she might be now is awful.

Hope she reappears safe and sound.

Oh no *hug*

Feel free to ignore me but I'm going to write this in the hope that I'll be able to concentrate on studying if this isn't all swimming (running maniacally) around my mind.

Argh. It doesn’t matter what I do, everything is going wrong again. If things are going well at home my schoolwork is behind. Now I'm pretty much on top of all the coursework but am hated by my family. I wouldn't normally use the word 'hated' but I think it's justified. My mum can't wait for me to leave, she has said as much, and believes that she has wasted the last 17 years of her life on me. And she's right really, what have I achieved that's of any value?

I keep trying to find something to look forward to, but I can't find anything at the moment. I could try to look forward to (hopefully) going to university later this year, but, as has been pointed out, I probably won’t get there.

One of the few people I've found I can confide in is so far away that it’s not even funny. I've probably managed to isolate him now as well, which is just, you know… great. I don't really want to continue feeling that I want to hurt myself either, but I can’t see anyway of that stopping…it's almost an automatic reaction now. I'd ask someone for advice but when I did happen to confess to doing it, the people who knew started treating me differently.

I hate to complain like this because there are so many people out there who are in a much worse situation than me. Where I'm considering not going home, there are people who don't even have a home to go to. I really do try to be cheerful and optimistic and generally it might appear that I succeed, but it doesn’t feel like that. If life is a rollercoaster, as I think I heard someone say, I wouldn't mind getting off now.

I'm sorry to hear you feel this way Miss Ross. I have PM'd you. Take care of yourself.

*I hope your kitten returns soon, APF *

I have just caught up on this and want to say how very sorry I am. I know exactly how you feel because one of my much loved cats disapeared on New year's Day and has, sadly, not been seen since. It is really heart rending to not know what has happened and I send you all the supporting vibes I can muster. Don't despair - someone may well find her. When Bingley went missing lots of forumites gave me a lot of sympathy and support and there were many stories of cats and kittens that had been found. Will be thinking of you.

Yes I hope the kitten turns up. It's a shame it wasn't let into the nieghbour's house - but then I guess people see a cat and assume it's alright out on its own

It's hard to know what to do. I found a kitten in my garden one day and it hung around for the afternoon. Thinking it must be lost or new to the area I looked at the tag and carried it home - only about 20 minutes walk away.

Unfortunately the owner looked at me like I was an interfering idiot and didn't look at all pleased that I'd bothered her with such a trivial matter...

Still, I'd rather have looked a fool than taken the chance that someone was frantically looking for it

Oh Miss Ross *hug*

The comments said by your Mum sound quite harsh, though can't say much as don't know the circumstances. But you have a achieved a lot of value! Look at all your music, you've got good grades and you're a really lovely person. Don't let people get you down because you are worth a lot.

Of course you can get to university! You are perfectly capable, and I found that once I knew where I wanted to go, it gave me motivation to work to get there. Do you know what you want to do, where?

Can relate to good-friends-being-so-far-away thing. It is hard, but I am sure you've not isolated him. Often if you confide in a few people you feel possibly that you are loading all your problems onto them and thus they must hate you. But I am sure that isn't true. It's probably the opposite, they want to help you.

You've been harming yourself?

You don't have to reply to this here - feel free to PM me or contact me in any way. I can give you my mobile number if you want to speak to someone. You're not alone, and people can help you.

xxx

Oh dear, that's so sad. I do hope she will be found safe and well.

Miss Ross, sorry you're having a hard time. I am sure you will get to university and have a great time there. What have you achieved that's of any value? First, define "value" I'm 32, I don't think you'll find I've done anything of "value", in fact you'll find most people haven't done anything of "value". Forget value, it's always going to be subjective and you'll measure different people by different meanings of "value" - and you'll always put yourself against the toughest measure. So reframe the question to "what have I achieved?" and see what you come up with. And if you still can't think of anything, well, then forget the question. Why do things have to be about achievement anyway.


It's all making me thwacking my head on the car this morning seem a lot less aaarrrrgh anyway. Though that might explain my incoherent ramblings today

My friend's got the neurovirus I'm so scared about getting it...

My history teacher didn't give me that good a mark for my 12 page essay beacause I din't link the paragraphs as he didn't tell us that to get a decent mark the topics had to be linked.(And I did naturally link about half the topics) And now he says as a top set we're underachieving. Grrrrrrrrrr!

to MissRoss, Andy-piano-flute and BBTOTW.

Aargh I think I've forgotten how to play the organ!

You know, I'm just willing to bet that's not true

.. but good luck anyway resolving whatever made you think like that

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people!


again... never cease to amaze do they ...?

Gah, our top sets always got told we were underachieving. I remember at GCSE, we had a maths mock which was quite hard and only a few people got above a B, and teh teacher was furious. (Of course in the real thing, lots got A* and A)



You ok?

Bit late here, but Miss Ross, my mum says things like that all the time when she loses her temper - I'm sure your mum doesn't mean it... My mum even makes me promise that when she screams at me to get out and live somewhere else, I won't actually go. You won't have isolated your friend - they're pretty difficult to get rid of if they're really good ones.

Musicfreak, our topsets constantly got screamed at for underachieving too - I was only spared it in French because my timetable meant that I was in a mixed set instead - we all did ok - and now you know about your essay you can do it next time - as you say, it happens often naturally anyway that topics link together - so next time you can search for the links a bit. At least you know what to improve!

Hope everyone else is ok now?

I hope you find your cat APF.

xxx

well.... you know how it is... people who flip and have a strop...

AAAAARRRGH!!!

My brother has been back for 2 days and the whole house has already been gased by burning chilli powder!!! Apparently he can't smell/feel it, but everyoneelse is having continuous coughing fits.

Pffffft!!!
Stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid! (me)

Whatever have you done, Maizie?!

Aaaaargghh!!! My car battery is as flat as a pancake - even the clock has stopped! The courtesy light has two positions on a rocker switch, and it's so easy to put it to the second, very dim position instead of turning it off. Unfortunately, we've been away for two days (with Hubby's car), and I didn't use it on Monday either, so it has run the battery right down.

My poor son has been looking forward to today for ages, as a couple of his friends have come down from Derby and he'd begged the car so they could all go to the cinema in Basingstoke. He was desperate to show off his driving, as he hasn't seen them since he passed his test, so I feel absolutely gutted for him.

Is there any way you could get it jump started?

The last time my battery went flat was at the beach. First of all I got told off by the beach police ( ) for doing 15mph in a 10mph zone Then we drove too far down and got stuck in the sand, so the tractor has to pull us out. To top it all off, my friend had the radio on the whole time we were there, so when we tried to leave, the batterly was flat, meaning more hassle for the poor beach staff

It wasn't a great day all in all - I'm sure they were glad to see the back of us

Looked at something I shouldn't have done and upset myself with what I found out. Nosiness has its own punishment, and I really should know that by now
On the other hand, it gave me an excuse to have a good rant at a friend who has (a) ranted in return and (b) given me a huge boost in finding my former-perspective, so I now realise that it's not something important anyway, so all that upset over nothing was a big waste of energy. So I'm a lot more cheerful now

I've had two car batteries 'crash' on me, when they just go dead for no apparent reason. Very annoying, and both times left me waiting at work for an hour for the repair men to come out!

I could have jump-started it using a neighbour's car, but when I rang Hubby at work to check, he thought better not with it being so flat, because if son had stalled within the first few miles it probably wouldn't have restarted and then they'd have been in a worse mess.

They have gone to the cinema in someone else's car now, but as the cinema trip had been mostly planned so that he could do the driving, I somehow don't think that will be much consolation!

I don't envy you that beach trip, ad libitum - how embarrassing!

argh.

it hasn't really been a bad week; just overwhelming. i started university on monday, and now find myself practising for more hours than i ever have before. the thing is, if i don't find practising for such a long time intensely enjoyable, does it mean i am not meant to be a musician? i couldn't imagine enjoying anything if i had to do it for five hours a day. in one way i am really excited, but in another very miserable. and the practise rooms are really depressing - they have no windows and nothing on the walls and are almost underground.

Argh!

My work gave me tomorrow off as holiday, they just allocated it to me. I was planning on using it to catch up on my studying. On Wednesday I came down with a stinking cold, so I decided to call work today and tell them I wouldn't be coming in tonight for my shift as I'm ill... I really do need to rest. However they said they couldn't accept my sick call, and to ring back in a few hours. So I rang back, and they asked me what was wrong, what I'd been taking, and told me to call tomorrow and tell them if I'm "well enough to take my holiday"! I know it must look suspect, as I have tomorrow off anyway, but my track record is perfect, I rarely go sick and I've never in my life called in sick for anything other than being sick. I'm very upset, as I genuinely am ill, and have been made to feel immensely guilty for wanting to stay at home and recover. It's not my fault they gave me the holiday, they were the ones who wanted me to take it then! Plus now I'll have to tell them I'm still sick tomorrow as a) I'm sure I will be and b) It will look really bad if I don't, and sick leave is unpaid, so I'll have to make up 11 hours somewhere, which I don't have the time for.

I feel really bad, they were so rude to me, I'm sure if they believed I was genuinely ill they would have behaved totally differently.

Why couldn't they accept your sick call? I wouldn't have bothered ringing back. You already told them once!

As for asking what you've been taking (should they be even asking that?). You have a cold. There is no cure, so the question is irrelevent.



Also, if you take tommorow as an official sick day, doesn't that mean you are still owed a days holiday somewhere?

Feel better soon and don't feel guilty xxx

cat_loves_flute, you probably have a policy thing on sickness and attendance with your contract.... you should have seen one anyway. Consult that.... If you feel you have been unfairly treated, the ACAS website has a lot of info on the law etc. Your employers want to know whether you are sick tomorrow as it doesn't count as holiday is you are sick... it might also be important for waiting days if you become eligible for statutory sick pay. For SSP I think you have to be ill for 3 waiting days and then you begin to get paid, but weekends etc, days off count in the waiting days.

It isn't fair if they don't take your word for it though!!!!
ACAS is really helpful. I have rung the employers line several times to ask questions... they always give good answers.

Poor cat_loves_flute, I hope you feel better soon. Don't know what your work's "rules" are, but my dad who is a civil servant took Tues-Thurs of our half term off work to go away with my mum. While he was away they both came down with appalling colds but because he'd had holiday leave on the Thursday he couldn't take the Friday as sick leave, he'd have to use that day as holiday leave again. This meant he went into work unwell anyway. (Hope this make sense)