QUOTE(Solari @ Jul 5 2009, 11:44 PM)
QUOTE(BerkshireMum @ Jul 5 2009, 11:39 PM)
I wouldn't put it in quite the same way as Solari, but my sentiments are similar. You've given the girl every opportunity to tell you whether your playing bothers her, and she's said nothing, so I'd carry on as usual. There's no reason why you should take notice of a third party if you've been assured by the girl herself that you are not bothering her.
LOL.. I'm not quite as diplomatic as usual tonight, but I've met plenty of this type of person in the past. They relish stirring things and also crave attention under the pretence of being a victim
Flossie: Practice all you like and blow the audience away come performance time
You won't have to put up with the aforementioned person for *that* much longer as a proportion of your life so who cares? Maybe ask again if there is a problem and see what she says face-to-face?
You lot seem to have got her sussed.
Obviously I don't want to make people unhappy, and I don't want to unsettle the house dynamics (which in a hall with 25 people is an important consideration). This is the first time I personally have had problems with her, but there have been a whole string of problems between her and other people in the house and between her and the uni - all of which have been created by her for the purpose of becoming a victim and gaining attention and sympathy (sorry if that sounds unsympathetic). People are really sick of this behaviour, which is why there is such a danger of it now destablising the whole house. I appreciate that her behaviour is likely to be caused by deeper unhappines, and that her lying and problem creating is probably a coping strategy for this. However, her approach of upsetting other people and making them unhappy in order to make herself feel better is very destructive for the rest of the house, and telling lies about people in order to turn other people against them (which she has tried several times) is frankly not acceptable.
What has really annoyed me is her lying. I have no objection to re-negotiating practice times if she wants to do that, but I DO object to her telling other people that she has told me not to play and that I have refused to listen - because this is quite simply not true. If she has a problem with my playing then she should talk to me, rather than spreading lies around the house.
Oldnotes - I'm going to see how things evolve before I make a decision on Stalybridge.
I know you've put a lot of time into the accompaniment and I would feel realy bad pulling out. However, If I haven't been able to play my flute for two weeks at that point then there is no way I'd actually be able to get through the piece.
It's only really the next two weeks which are a problem because from late July until the end of August I'll be looking after a friend's cats and guinea pig and will be able to practice there (without any close neighbours to disturb), and I'm looking to get a 1st September let for wherever I live next. It is unfortunate that the next two weeks are vital in terms of preparation for the Stalybridge concert.