Just to pick up on a point that Jod made about parents getting absorbed. I've said it more than once on this forum that myself in particular comes on to discuss music matters. That does not mean that it takes up every waking moment of my day or that any angst is that serious that I lose sleep over it. I don't feel the need or desire to discuss anything other than music and how it relates to my DC's. I just can't believe how narrow-minded the "snipers" are being by accusing certain members of being narrow-minded.
I do think there are a group of members who really should know better and act better - if you have been there and done that then lead by example and show tolerance and guidance to parents with less experience. It is very unbecoming... This thread is for consolation, not an opportunity to have yet another go at someone you have decided to have a personal vendetta with.