Thank you all for the considered and supportive responses
Apologies also for the late response, I've just been home to give all my loved ones hugs, always helps
I've decided to just leave it for now and see how things go until Xmas break in just over a month, mainly only two/three causing most of the problems drunk or not drunk (stolen cups etc
) but the rest of my flatmates have been great and totally rallied around me in support, particularly about the door and so I've been having some good times with them, so it's not all out war yet
Still can't wait to be in a house next year though!
QUOTE(Mad Tom @ Nov 1 2011, 10:33 AM)
This sort of thing makes me so angry.
I agree with b-c. Don't put up with it. Tell them that you do not appreciate it, that you want to be treated with proper respect, and if anything like it ever happens again you will do whatever it takes to stop it, and make sure the perpetrators are punished.
And if you want someone to pay them a visit and terrify them a little ... I'll be in the UK a few times between now and the end of the year
Awwwwww, Thanks Mad Tom
I shall keep an eye on it and if it happens again, they won't know what hit 'em
QUOTE(morceau @ Nov 1 2011, 10:43 AM)
"friends" I would question that. As others have said, this is not funny, it's bullying. People do go mad in halls; it brings out the worst immaturity in a lot of people. You know, you can go to Student Welfare and tell them what is happening, and ask to be moved elsewhere. You may find that some of the self-catering flats have more sensible people in them (just something I've observed) and by this time there may be people who have dropped out, so places will be available.
I have a nephew suffering in a similar way at the moment.
Keep your chin up in the meantime. They are despicable - and they can't even spell!
I do like my friends, really! They can just be very annoying as they're so much more outspoken than I am and constantly telling me to do things I don't particularly want to do... which I find *really* irritating particularly as I don't seem to get a say when I'm 18 and fully capable of making my own choices so it just ends up in resentment/confrontations and I don't enjoy being peeved with my friends!
Actually all the halls here are self catered (Kitchen is disgusting though!) but yeah, in terms of maturity I suddenly feels like I'm back in secondary school and not uni! I just wait for the work and exams to pour in!
I had to tell my step mum how to spell weird properly when I recounted this to her! doh!
QUOTE(Misti @ Nov 3 2011, 06:34 PM)
The point I was trying to make was that there are levels. 18 year olds, free from home for the first time and perhaps getting very drunk for the first time do not behave in responsible ways. They also, in groups, encourage each other into increasing stupidity. There is a difference though, between daft antics or lack of consideration, which is impersonal, and attacks, insults and doing disgusting things to your property; which are personal. I put up with all the the prior, because I'd have been a right misery guts / kill joy / unpopular prig if I hadn't. I would not have put up with things that personally distressed me.
To put it in perspective, my halls were on top of the student union nightclub. Compared to the racket that produced 4 nights per week, any antics of my housemates were no trouble at all! I rather thought the university were inconsiderate for putting us up there!
Yes, it is a fine line between pranks etc and picking on people which is why I'm a bit unsure, so I'm just going to watch it for now but I mean, bangers in cupboard a few times = a joke, many times over several weeks = not so. Particularly when it was ONLY me!