Yes, it was me who had this query in the past, and this is the thread:
http://forums.abrsm.org/index.php?showtopic=14773&hl=A little further down the line now, myself, my advice would be to be very careful not to put this child off! My child was fully prepared for Grade One at the age of 6 and a bit, and by this stage could even make a reasonable stab at the sight-reading. He wasn't always guaranteed to get the first note right, as he didn't know his lines and spaces
all that well, but he could play and read pretty well by interval if he did get that first note. What stopped me from putting him in for the actual exam was that he just suddenly decided he wasn't doing it! (He was entered and the fee was paid.) I'm still analysing why - he had got a Distinction in the LCM's first exam when he was 5, and the whole experience was positive, but I wonder if I put him off by homing in too much after that on things that he just wasn't developmentally ready for.
He is not playing at all now, because he said he "couldn't be bothered with all that". (I didn't really know what he meant at the time, but I think now that he meant that he couldn't be bothered with me pushing the notation and the aurals. Cyrilla's point about "testing" is very valid. Musically and rhythmically he was streets ahead of children much older, but he still didn't understand higher/lower, and struggled with things like flats and sharps. He knew when to use a black note, because it sounded right, but he didn't get the
concept at all. In retrospect, I think I started thinking about exams too young, and if I could go back in time, I wouldn't go down the exam route at all - certainly not yet. There is always a lot of discussion here about the rights and wrongs of what is on the exam syllabi, in terms of aural tests, sight-reading, etc, and about what it means to be a "rounded musician", rather than somebody who "just plays", but in this case it was my focusing on this "rounded musicianship" that put the child off.
Somebody - probably Cyrilla! - said that aurals are too much tested and not enough taught, which is very true. The trouble is that most of us do tend to teach by testing; we just keep "practising" them, as in testing them, till a higher proportion of the answers start being right. It's something I've been thinking a lot about, generally, ever since, and I tend to incorporate the aural aspect a lot more into the pupils' playing now, rather than make ear tests the thing that you just do at the end of the lesson. In fact I think the tests on the exam syllabi are very limiting, and make it all too much of a seperate issue. I think aurals and sight-reading should be allowed to develop naturally, intrinsically, and at their own pace until about Grade 4, without being pidgeon-holed by the confines of exams. Even if we don't do exams, we tend to feel that our pupils shoud be au fait with it all before moving on to the next level. At Grade 4 or so, these things tend to kick in of their own accord, and suddenly start to crystallise in terms that are defineable for a younger child. They can often "do it" before then, but they really haven't always got a clue what it
is that they're doing! Where scales are concerned, interestingly, this child had no problem at all; he could play two-octave scales with ease in several keys, looking at the piano, without always needing to be told what the black notes were.
I'm taking it very easy with him now. He's in a choir and loves to sing, and I'm hoping that he'll show an interest in the piano again when he's a little older. My eyes are open to any opportunity to channel him back again, but I'll be doing it my way, and not being such an idiot as to feel that I have to follow the traditional route of teaching with a timetable of everything that the exam boards require in the order that they require it.
Good luck with your young student!
Patricia.
P.S. There is a piece on the old Guildhall Grade One syllabus, called "Stairway", by Christopher Norton, in which the LH descends by step, like walking downstairs; you could try this as a means of explaing "getting lower", if you could get hold of a book.