hi i just wondered how many of us have music playing partners and how many of us were not musical when meeting partner and have become so since

( given it some thought and not had the confidence to book up lessons / buy instrument until now)

i am one of the always wanted to play but never got round to it till now people and now own two flutes two bamboo flutes two recorders two fifes penny whisltes guitar keyboard enough percussion to sink a small ship and a spare room full of sheet music

to make matters worst hubby bought me a four track recorder with mic so now i have even more chances to play record and send to in- laws abroad

I am not married, but hope that if I do get married it'll be to someone who's interested in music

hi

its nice to share a hobby my husband plays guitars bass classical and electric so its nice to play together but when he or i want to play alone its a race to get in the spare room first! the other one ends up in the living room with a music stand

I'm not married but my boyfiend isn't musical at all. He likes the Piano. I've never played Violin to him but he said the other day after he heard a bit of Maxim playing on a video that he doesn't like the sound of the violin! so i said what's going to happen when we live together and he said i'll have to practise when he's not there - which doesn't sound very fair to me because it'll be my home too and i should be free to play whenever i like. I said he'll just have to get used to it!!!

Sorry for the slight rant!

Just to add, he is very supportive of my playing though.

I met my husband at the little concert hall and museum where he works - he was tuning for a recital. A year or three after that, my oboe broke, and I bought a recorder; a little while later he agreed to do some continuo playing for me, and seven years after we first met, we got married at the same little hall .

Didn't do much music-making for a long time after that - too tired thanks to a fairly awful working week, and then kids, but re-started about five years ago, helped along by an acquaintance, who gave us a spare harpsichord he happened to have lying around in his garage. Now we play as often as we can, I've done three exams, and this year we played together at a concert, and at a baroque workshop. We're so lucky to have music in common, especially as we also like similar music, by and large. As well as doing some music together, we each have (overlapping) circles of musical friends and acquaintances, so it's not all inward looking either .

i've been playing flute for over 20 years and have been with my husband for 8, he wasn't musical (by that i mean playing somthing) when i met him but started classical guitar about 18 months ago and is doing really well

hi this is lovely i had my english wedding reception in the thai restaurant where we met on our first date, i got married in indian too but without the legal bit ! its a great hobby to meet people i happen to say to a local band that i wanted to learn percussion now i play with them in the band they have asked hubby to join them too now its good to have someone at home that understands what a quaver is and why i stress over timing




hi this sounds like my hubby and me flute and classical guitar

i love the sound of guitar and flute together and i was inspired by hubbys playing that i found the confidence to start the flute glad to hear your hubby is enjoying it too

Now that's not a sentence you see/hear very often!

I met my husband when I was 15, he worked in a record shop. By the time we got together (I was 17 then) I was on to my sciencey A-levels and music was not something I did anymore. Since then he left the shop and went back to his boring old job (finance industry), I went through several more years of not playing. When I went to my first SRP meeting, I came home absolutely ecstatic about having played, and he wondered why he'd never known this about me, so I pointed out that I'd given up music by the time we go together.
What's good is that he does know his music from his years in the shop, so at least in a music shop he can provide me a bit of guidance as in the small-c-classical area my knowledge is pretty limited.
He doesn't play any instrument but in the event that we ever get a digital piano (I was on holiday last week in a house with a piano, so now I need a piano), I suspect he'll be tempted in to learning to play it at least a bit :-)

Boyfiend !!

My wife got to grade 6 violin, but hasnt touched one for at least 25 years. Seems to prefer to go to theatre rather than a good concert despite proximity of Liverpool Phil

My hubby LOVES music...... just not the music I perform!



Ambs
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Same here. My husband works on a music magazine and loves music, just not classical really. He is always telling me to shut up when I'm practising, but I just ignore him.

Misterjay isn't hugely musical. But he's tremendously supportive, so I'm really lucky.

He valliantly tries to be supportive. He came in during my practice one morning and said "That sounds nice, what is it?"

"An A major arpeggio" I replied. "Is Arpeggio an Italian composer, then?" he asked.....

What's so funny about "boyfriend"? He's not my fiance or my husband and i am only 26

I think it was that you missed the "r" out of it.

Ooops! Ha ha ha, oh yeah so i did!

Awww

Boyfiend might be an accurate description occasionally of course, violinist?

Boyfiend might be an accurate description occasionally of course, violinist?
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lol, now and then maybe!

Signor Dante-in-c plays the guitar very well and sings - mainly folk/acoustic stuff. He is also the proud owner of a Grade 1 merit in flute (128), entered for examination by andante_in_c. That was three years ago, and he's not gone further, but I'm hoping he might be persuaded to take part in an Adult Learners' concert some time.

Husband likes classical music but like others, just isn't remotely interested in the instrument I play. He is supportive in the sense that he doesn't mind looking after the kids whilst I practice, doesn't mind if I practice for hours on end (probably too scared to complain!) and even takes me to lessons.

When we met, I was heavily into dancey trancey club music.

Husband and I met at the Proms, a good place to find someone who likes classical music. He's a reformed oboe player with a dusty Grade VIII certificate somewhere, but does more singing than oboe-playing now (including BBCSC, Valhalla Choral Society and church choir). I keep trying to persuade him to rediscover the oboe but no luck so far.

I've accompanied him a couple of times in the past, and we've played oboe and clarinet duets (but no prizes for guessing who did the transposing at sight ), which was alot of fun.

It's great having someone who understands about music .

Its the clash of the titans in our living room - my Steinway B, 2 keyboards, flute, sheet music, stands etc etc at one end. His top end hi-fi with valves, turntable, enoooooooormous speakers etc at the other.
My daughter's drum kit is strategically positioned between the two.

You go ahead and practice whenever you like, he can wear earplugs if he really wants to!
I am 'single' and wanting to stay that way but in my life I have NEVER had a friend/boyfriend/family member who was the slightest interested in classical music or any instrument that is not a guitar. But everyone thinks it's great I am learning violin/piano and encourage me a lot along the way

Mine can't understand why anyone could possibly want to play the oboe, nor why, since I could already play the piano reasonably well, I should want to start another instrument from scratch.

He did, however, buy me my first oboe as a present (although he later claimed he didn't know what it sounded like before he bought it) and doesn't mind how much I practise.

Violinist - that looks like a dig at piano players!

Isn't "major arpeggio" an Italian Army Officer?

Mr Flutecake is by the far the best musician in our house. I did a lot of music at school but got distracted at Uni by sports (and put off by everyone in my college being much better at music than me).

Part of the reason for me concentrating on the flute (I also play the piano) is that I can never get him off the piano. Fortunately he is always ready to play accompaniments for me, encouraged me to get a really nice flute and didn't complain too much last night when I tried to demonstate how bad my singing was.

[quote name='piano63' date='Jun 27 2007, 09:44 PM' post='541802']
[quote name='violinist' post='541363' date='Jun 27 2007, 02:26 PM'] I'm not married but my boyfiend isn't musical at all. He likes the Piano.[/quote] Violinist - that looks like a dig at piano players!

That wasn't meant to be a dig at Piano, It should have read although he does like the Piano but he doesn't play an instrument!

Him Indoors is a full-time musician - organist, pianist, also harpsichord and cello - All-Round-Musical-Brain, really. Think I first thought, 'Hey!' when he leapt to the piano during the Lottery programme and instantly improvised a fugue on the National Lottery theme...

We're both passionate about music in different but complementary ways and certainly understand what makes the other one 'tick' - very important and we're hugely supportive of each other (especially when we have problems or difficulties).

Mr hillyb doesn't know the first thing about music. He is very supportive of all that I do, though. He, at one point, thought that 'The Four Seasons' was something to do with Franky Valley!!!! I ask you!!!

I will be, in precisely one year to the day . It's our -1th wedding anniversary . And I remembered and everything .

Ooh, that's so nice. Hope you have a lovely day

Awwww

My other half's an organist in his spare time. We met in the organ loft at church. He was quite keen for me to join the choir (except if I proved to be a coloratura soprano - I think he thought it would upset the balance of the choir ).

Now he has his organ and associated electrical devices in the study and I have my piano in the lounge, but I occasionally have to elbow him off the piano especially when it's time for lessons. I'm still in the (different) choir, but have been promoted to deputy organist, page turner in chief, transport arranger, diary keeper (for weddings etc), and general factotem.

On the other hand, I make use of his computer skills to print off music, transpose stuff on the computer etc etc, so I suppose it's fair all round.

My OH has no interest in music - at all - he doesn't even listen to music - except he can't help but hear me practicing - he's never said "that's nice".

I asked him if he'd ever fancy learning an instrument and he said he'd quite like to try a xylophone - but we really haven't room and they cost such a lot and he doesn't really have time to practice anyway.

My house is full of music and sound ~

piano, three keyboards, flute, clarinet (occasionally - gone into hibernation since it successfully did its Grade 5), three saxes, complete drumkit and amplifier and speakers of enormous dimensions

I am probably the least accomplished musician, but they are all supportive - and I do go out to play in wind band and light orchestra.

I've known my OH since we were 8, so before I took up music...

However, he ALWAYS wants to hear me play the piano and is really good at getting me to play at other people's houses when I'm shy. The only thing that is slightly annoying is that he has a better ear than me and can always tell when I play the wrong note/I'm out of tune on the violin.
We also love singing together, just hymns and things with someone else at the piano.
I'm trying to encourage him to take up the cello, but learning music isn't something to force on someone else so that hasn't got very far yet. He does want to play, he just never gets around to it!

When (if all goes well) we get married in the next couple of years, I would love to do a duet at the reception...

My tame husband has a huge music collection of things I can't pronounce and mostly never heard of but none of it is classical (sorry, he has one cd of the Mozart flute and harp). He doesn't play any instrument and is not interested in learning.

When I started the violin just over nine months ago he just grumphed and said he didn't much like violins (so did his mother but don't get me started on her rudeness ... just to say she's a complete philistine and we don't connect at all).

So grumpy husband kept up his grumphs and I did my practice when he was at work. Occasionally he'd come home while I was still playing and I was expected to 'put it away'. He didn't come to my first public concert in November and refused to come and hear me play a duet with my teacher in March. But, a couple of times I kept playing when he came home and in April he bought me a little violin badge for my case

Then a few weeks before my exam (June 18th) he made the passing comment "you're getting better" and I was on top of the world Then I asked him to listen to my pieces while I played them with the cd and he did but without much comment BUT then he took me to my exam rehearsal and said it sounded quite good!

So he's melting I hope when my results come through he might even be a little proud of me

NOT that it matters what he thinks really - I love the violin and will play it regardless but it would be nice....

MrC doesn't play anything - though he did get grade 1 violin 40+ years ago! He does, however, love listening to all music, classical, pop, etc., and has 500+ CDs, not to mention 200+ vinyl records, which we still play. He had a few singing lessons with my then teacher when we first met, and we sang a duet at our wedding reception.
He's SO supportive. He used to drive me 130 miles each way to my singing lesson every Saturday and encouraged me to go to music college - we had two teenage daughters at the time. He's only missed one of my concerts in 33 years of marriage, due to work committments. He came with me to a heat and the song prize final at Cardiff Singer of the World, and loves to go to the theatre - shows, opera, ballet. He'll come with me to watch my students perform at festivals, and encourages them. The all know him from my student concerts, which he helps to organise.
I'm SO lucky!

My estraged wife, couldn't stand me practicing. Always asked me a question mid way through a piece and wanted an answer straight away. you know stop what your doing and answer the question. Really annoying when your trying to keep it flowing, or have struggled to get past a point and then get stopped anyway. So currently now going through the death throws of a 20 year relationship, I have found complete solace in the piano. Me and a few friends have now but a band together as another form of musical outlet (Tremendous fun) and my playing has improved 10 fold..working on my grade 8..

The Old Man has always enjoyed listening to music. Recently he felt a bit left out I think. With moi playing the flute, along with big daughter. Then us having a piano for moi and little daughter. So 2 years ago he started classical guitar. Passed his Grade 2 with a merit
Beverley.

Mr Gummidge ( first name is not Worzel) is a very tolerant man, who is encouraging, and a good listener. He does not like the sound of the viola at all, even when played well, but accepts it as yet another idiosyncracy.He likes the children playing and singing, however the amount of housework is inversely proportional to the amount of music practice, and this can be difficult. All in all , we're very lucky, and he is very tolerant.!

My wife doesn't play any instruments, but loves listening to music from old (crica 1955 - 1965) bollywood films - some of it is very nice, for example:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZXMtY4oZec

Mr Good Intentions (actual name - No Intentions but Amazing Results aka Jammy g*t) is truley a multi instrumentalist, when I met him I knew he played gituar and a mean slap bass (thanks for that Level 42 ) since then have discovered he can literally pick up and play any instrument with out even trying, its insane (yet to see him try the harp though )

Now he is a producer for local bands, and composer (does some amazing string sections for someone who has never had a violin/ cello or viola lesson in his life ) dj, and music events organiser you name it. Sometimes it makes me want to cry with jealousy I suppose


On the other hand i am very proud and he always helps me - last night he accompanied me on the piano whilst I was playing recorder - even though he hates it when I play the descant

I'm not married but I have a partner story.

When I was with my first boyfriend after leaving school, I was still in school mode and wanted to carry on with my flute lessons. He didn't like the idea and said that I should give up because I'm not at school anymore and it won't get me anywhere. Like a good girlfriend, I did becuase being in my first proper relationship I thought that was what I had to do.

Anyway, we split up and then I started seeing my ex (who is now incidently my best friend). i never mentioned being able to play the flute at first until one day we were talking about things and I said that I'd love to return to it. He really encouraged me to do so and still does to this day. And i'm so thankful for him for doing so. He couldn't believe I'd given up in the first place becuase as a non instrumentalist he couldn't understand how someone who'd put hours of practice time in could just stop.

hi isnt it funny what we do for others rightly or wrongly i glad that you remembered your flute i have only being playing 13 months and cant think what i would do with my time if i didnt now. i havent taken any grades as i just play for fun and hope to improve with my teachers guidance she doesnt push to do grades but does mention at what level a piece is

As Deborah knows she is not the only forumite who had a proms romance and ended up marrying the fellow in question. Its where I met my husband too. He may not play too well and be an adult learner, but he enjoys listening to music very much... particularly Early Music.

Married to a music Lover....now theres a question....I'm not even married to a non music lover...haven't met anyone at a Prom, a concert or even a raffle for that matter...

Actually these days I am too set in my ways...I'm happy for those who are partnered but equally happy on my tod

Kindest regards

Andrew

Spinster of this Parish

Errr...ditto!!

"Bachelor of the Parish" , surely Andrew!

Its the old Peter Cook and Dudley Moore quote when Peter Cook reffered to himself as a.....

Spinster of this Parish...

It always made me smile

I think you are probably right...
a good state to be in