QUOTE(Momma Jo @ Dec 4 2008, 06:14 PM)

I know it sounds awful but I'm worrying in case she DOES get in college and we spend all that £££££££££
...and then- no work, unemployment and massive debt.
Sometimes I cant sleep at night worrying about it all frankly.
I can understand the worries of a parent when their child wants to start an artistic career, but can I just say that not everyone who studies music MUST end up on stage? There are so many ways to have a fulfilling life as a musician, and a performance career is only one of them. I willingly gave up theatre because I wanted a settled private life. I lived like a gypsy for quite a while, and by the time I was 30 I already felt I had enough (some people enjoy this lifestyle though, that's merely a character thing). I still perform, but it is not the bread and butter anymore, and I now can DECIDE which job I want to take on or not (if performing is your main income, you cannot always do that, and you sometimes end up doing shows or concerts you are not really fond of to say it politely

).
There are a million ways to live as a musician. It maybe doesn't make you rich, but if you found your place, it makes you happy. I wouldn't want to swap in a million years, I never regretted anything, even the experiences I wouldn't want to repeat - they finally showed me what I DON'T want and made me find my place.
The most important thing is that you encourage your daughter to go down the route she wants to, even if it gives you belly rumbles. My parents, especially my mum, where always very supportive although I know today that the mere thought of having a "singing daughter" worried them sick at times
I didn't mean to discourage you by saying how things are. Yes, life as a performer is hard and sometimes (better: probably always) far away from the fancy lifestyle so many people think it is. You and your daughter have to be prepared that she will probably be knocked back on many auditions. This is a fact of life, and we have to learn to deal with it. The competition is massive, and being knocked back does not mean you are not good - but maybe someone else is better or more suitable. It also happens in other jobs, but jobs in theatres are very rare, so the competitive pressure is naturally high.
If she is committed though and loves what she is doing, she will find her way and be able to make a living (she probably won't earn millions though

) - it does not necessarily have to be a performing career. And most of all, she will be happy ...