I realized recently that music lessons have been part of son's life for nearly 11 years...longest running teacher has been teaching him for 7 1/2 years...when a teacher is part of a child's life for that long, it makes you appreciate a really good teacher-student relationship.
Son has ended up with 4 rather unusual teachers..what his teachers have in common: wide interests, involvement with music outside private teaching.
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You pay for a service. Do you feel you are getting value for money? Have you been ripped off? Are you delighted and think it's cheap at the price?
Are we getting value for money...somebody said in these forums that a teacher should be able to teach you something in 1 hour that would take you 3 hours to figure out for youself. From that point of view, yes, although when prices get up to 50 pounds per hour (with double that predicted when the current piano teacher hands Viohazard on to new teacher in summer), it's not a matter of value, but simply a matter of whether or not the money can be found.
Do we get the full time? There's quite a variation, but I assume it all works out in the end. Some teachers like to finish the lesson and shut the door, others like to sit back for a 15 minute chat...practicing their sleight of hand tricks to see whether Viohazard can catch them; talking about opera, offering to teach him the finer points of wine appreciation (!), or even just jamming together.
Have we been ripped off? I don't know that ripped off is the word to use...I stay away from the highest of the high profile teachers, because Viohazard just doesn't seem able to cope with that much pressure, but I've rarely felt that Viohazard wasn't making progress. When he wasn't, it was clear that he was unhappy, and that's a different issue. Ironically, with aggressive teachers, I also found myself nagging more at home, vainly hoping that perfection at lessons would prevent any angry attacks.
As for progress, the actual pace of lessons varies hugely with different teachers, but it seems to come out the same in the end. 7 years of guitar with Grade 8 coming up soon...his teacher teaches a lot of music at each level, and classes Viohazard as a beginner. Violin - 2 years of terror, 5 years of la-la land, 3 years of salt mines, and he passed Grade 8 last year. There's probably not that much difference between his level on the two instruments, despite the wide differences in teaching styles.
"Ripped off" suggests a teacher knowingly taking advantage of a student or parent...even when I've moved Viohazard, I've usually felt that the teacher was making a genuine effort to do what he or she thought best, but that their efforts were counteracted by personality/emotional issues such as anger, or power games involving denigration.
The nearest I've felt to "ripped off" was a teacher who appeared to be so invested in her own kids' musical careers that I felt we were just providing funding - her children were talented and very involved in music, but she didn't seem to remember what my kids were doing from week to week, and in 5 years she neither taught him to hold his bow correctly, nor how to shift positions ("I can see that you can do it by instinct, I don't need to teach you..."), so at post grade-8, he's in fact still consolidating gaping holes in his violin technique. But even so, she didn't put down his musical tastes, she recognized how different my kids were and taught them both differently, and fostered their interest in music. I think my sons came away from that experience with more music than from the teachers who screamed about everything or brooked no questions, even about their doorbells!
Conversely, what (as a parent) do I particularly value?
Maybe because Viohazard is a boy, I really value the teachers who make clear comments on technique. I don't think the average boy is able to understand the sugared pill type of criticism.
I appreciate teachers who keep criticism to the point and free of emotional outbursts.
I appreciate teachers who are able to praise as well as criticize. Viohazard's violin teacher threatens to kick his backside or turf him out the door quite regularly, but he also yells "WOOOONDERFUL!!!!" at the slightest provocation, so Viohazard isn't left feeling that he will never be able to meet his teacher's standards.
I appreciate teachers who follow up when they find a fault - once they've isolated a problem, they show clearly why it's happening, suggest remedies, and follow up over weeks/months. When teachers share their own technical problems I suspect that smaller children take it as an invitation not to worry about the problem, but as a teen Viohazard finds it very motivating to know that his teacher faced a similar problem and overcame it.
I appreciate hearing something about what the goals for the next few months or year are, whether it's technical goals, teaching or listening material, or exam/performance related. This helps me know what to ask about during the week. For younger children, an occasional child/teacher survey; newsletter; parent-teacher notebook etc. can help. For older children, e-mail seems to be the way to go.
I appreciate teachers who see the big picture: they talk about careers in music and how the present activities fit in, or how music fits in with other careers, and they are interested in different types of music, even if they are not personally experienced in every genre under the sun. Somehow, one teacher can say "you've come a long way, but in terms of professional skills, there's still a long way to go" and make it seem like an exciting prospect, while another teacher makes it sound as if the big world of music is not for the likes of unwashed youth!