I hate waiting, it's not that I'm really impatient, just that it drives me mad.

At the moment I'mn waiting on news for two things and have been for quite a while, they are both close to being resolved. They may be something or could end in nothing but I would rather know. It's all too much

I know from some of the other threads that I'm not the only parent who feels like this My finger nails are bitten away and I can't rest.

How do you all cope with the wait and what do you hate waiting for?

Not a parent myself, but I know my parents are dreading results day...so much so, my mum can't talk about it without tears coming to her eyes, she's really that nervous! And that makes me nervous!

Think about something else. Please, please try to! Last year, all my parents would talk about were the approaching Big Things, and it weren't good, guv. Distract yourself, do *not* count down the days, stop crossing off the days on the calendar ... Sorry, I don't think there's really a proper solution.

**hear hear** I know it's how my parents are coping with it, but it's stressing me out now too!
I do appreciate it's hard for parents though, I imagine it's lack of control for mine mainly, that they can't do anything to help me with those outcomes.

Yes I'm trying to do that and it's good advice.

We don't really talk about exam results much during the waiting period. Other than the post exam brief and then the odd wonder when the results will arrive.

I'm not sure when this verdict will be exactly so it's not counting down as such.

I just hate waiting.....

You have just rminded me that we need a calendar at work

Step away from the calendar!!

Seriously I need one for work not to count anything down on but it will be a major issue at somepoint if I don't sort one out We have to pretend we have been using it since January Nothing ot do with waiting honest

I wish my parents worked like that!! We end up over analysing things for hours and hours!

We don't really discuss the exam either. A quick "how did it go?" and whatever they want to say back is all. In Beth's case it isn't much, in Jamie's case it can be fun. I don't refer to it again until the results come in. By which time we've moved on to something else anyway.
I am very sympathetic to notmusimum though. I get very stressed but I don't let the children know.
Dora

Heh, heh, if my kids knew how often I checked the mail box!

I usually don't even let on which week(s) I think results will be due, and don't write it on the calendar - I mention the anticipated dates straight after the exam, and figure that if they have "forgotten", they don't want to hear about it.

Currently counting down to "some time in early October" for some Big Results for Airman, but I'm pretty sure the news will come to him rather than us, thankfully.

P.S. Just as our kids no doubt do their griping to their mates, I think this is the perfect place for parents to come and let off some unobserved steam about stuff we don't want to stress our kids with!

I don't have any tips on coping with waiting, jsut wanted to add that I hate it too!

Am currently waiting on viola exam results - not so important, I tried my best and am not too bothered about the result, and A levels - these are important. these decide where I go to uni next year, however seeing as results day isn't until august 20th I'm just trying very very hard not to think about how it will affect the entire course of my future....

Not necessarily. Look at how many people have got amazingly far in life without more than a handful of qualifications.

Education doesn't work like that. If you don't get the results you are hoping for you can take your A levels again.
Don't be panicked into doing something that might not be right for you.
I'm one of the people on the other end of the phone on 20th August who will be talking to peole looking for a place in Clearing. People don't always make good choices on that day. My husband went to University when he was 33 and has probably been more successful that he would have been if he had gone at 18 because he gained practical skills by not going to university that other engineering graduates just don't have.
I hope you get the results you want to go where you want but I can assure you that those results will not affect the entire course of your future even though it seems to you as if they will.
Good luck
Dora

i was joking, sorry.

i know its not the be all and end all, i really do, its just that I *want* to go to uni in september and I really want those grades and its frustrating waiting when you know theres nothing more you can do.

x

Schrödinger's cat springs to mind. Fatalism might be the best course. Looking on the bright side - there IS nothing more you can do (... apart from pray the markers know what they're doing, but maybe it's better not to go there)

At last! Someone who knows what Schrödinger's cat is!

One of our kittens is called that. We call him Schrödie for short

But anyway, contributing to the thread. I've just done a flute and piano exam.

Flute I'll get back on Tuesday or Wednesday (I don't really want it back though...)

Piano I have to wait for weeks!

I'm going to put it out of mind.

There's a novel in Japanese about that, called something like Schrodinger's Chocolate Icecream...

Forget about it now. You've done all you could and let us know how you got on when the results come out on 20th.
Dora

I'm now desperately curious to know what on Earth Schrodinger's Chocolate Icecream might be about...

(Open the box and its melted? Or still frozen?)

It occurs to me that I really should phone my parents and tell them that I got my results for this semester two days ago.

We're waiting for news of a college application: interviews have been held but no letter received one way or the other. Frustrating as it would be useful to know where education will be happening for the child in question, and annoying as it's uncharted territory for us: at what point to we get impatient enough to start bugging them about it? It's not dependent on exam results...

I do think it is the length of time waited which makes these things so difficult: sitting exams in June and having to wait until August when I was doing "O" and "A" levels, music diploma exams taken with the result not appearing for three months...that is harder than medical finals, which were posted within two days of the last paper being taken, even though it was the latter which secured me my career. And yes, frequent reminders to self that there is absolutely nothing you can do about the situation, at least until the result is overdue, when you can start to chase for it, is really the only option.

I am a TERRIBLE wait -er, and even my usual mantra of only to worry about those things I can actually do something about is often defeated. I know it's hard, but if you can't do anything more about what has happened, try to channel all that nervous energy into something you really influence.

Sorry, ABRSM, that is just one of the reasons that I am gradually moving towards Trinity exams - my pupils taking Trinity exams a fortnight ago had their results that evening (ie.... one happy teacher, quickly and successfully out of her misery) while the ABRSM-ers who took exams last week will have to wait at least another week, by which time many families will have gone off on holiday and the agony will be prolonged still further.

Good luck to everyone here waiting for less and more important results. I hope everything goes to plan, and if not, maybe there is something even better round the corner.

I hate waiting for exam results but at least you have an idea when they are going to happen.

The results I'm waiting for at the moment have deadline dates that have come and gone. I can guess on what the outcome is going to be and not thinking too positively (it's not a test). Not knowing when we are going to be put out of our misery is terrible.

I have to admit I don't really understand how stressed people seem to get waiting for music exam results. I guess it's the myriad of instant communication methods open to everyone these days that has changed expectations. I know that back in the days when I did music exams I never expected to get any results until the first lesson back the next term. So I did grade 6 clarinet the same summer I did 'O'-levels (shows how long ago it was) and got the results in September. There would have been no question of my teacher calling to tell me any earlier. I think the fact that I didn't expect anything any earlier meant that I really just didn't think about it in the intervening days.

TSax, I think you are right. Whatever you're waiting for it's much more stressful if you don't know exactly when it's going to come. I didn't worry at all over an Easter holiday when I knew my daughter's exam results were at school and we wouldn't get them until the start of the following term. However, on other occasions, where we've been expecting school to post the results at some unspecified point in the long summer holidays it's been agonising waiting for the postman each day.. It's the same with results on line. If results came on line precisely, 2 weeks or 3 weeks, or whatever, after the date of the exam, it would save all that checking every ten minutes from day 3 after the exam!!!!

Haha, don't even get me started on exam boards and markers knowing what they're doing
But, there is nothing more that we can do, and Anacrusis is right, it's the length of time that's the difficult bit...it gives you the time to think about it, and the time to worry about it....for both students and parents, and then in the final approach you've got all the different situations in your head and can just totally freak out!
NOT looking forward to August (again)

I'm not coping with waiting for a couple of days for my flute results! Did it on Sunday, went really badly, and am aching to know whether I passed or not (merits and distinctions are out of the question!)

My teacher said she'd probably phone Tuesday or Wednesday, probably Wednesday.

So anytime now!!!!!!!!!

In a way, I prefer ABRSM, because I seem to be able to put it out of mind, like I am with piano results.

All my friends have been asking how it went. I've been replying "Sheep-like with a d" to see which ones get my terrible joke

Wait half over and it's looking good!!!

Are you going to enlighten us?

Not until I know more. I'll start a thread once I am aware of all of the facts as there is possibly something I have to sort. It's good and I'm happy!

I also need to tell the girl herself

I have under an hour until I find out how I've done!!!!



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Hope you've passed!

In general:

Be in the present.
The past is finished, the future hasn't happened yet.
The only thing you have any control over is now. Every time your mind starts to wander, drag it screaming back to what you're doing now. Make a habit of it. The time will then slip by un-noticed...

The elephant