QUOTE(Swisscello @ Dec 8 2009, 02:13 PM)

Neenee, if you have learnt to hear whether you are in tune in less than a month you are lucky!
It has taken me years. And I can still very rarely hear 'beats', essential for tuning a cello without an electronic tuner - though I think I might nearly be at that point.
Using a tuning does help if you (like me) really don't know whether you are in tune or not.
Some (rare) teachers do try to teach aural skills as part of instrumental training. I had the idea of trying taking the practical musicianship exams to help improve my ear as I couldn't ever imagine passing the grade 6 aural. I couldn't actually find any teacher who had ever used the practical musicianship exams and even grade 1 is VERY difficult if you struggle with pitch and musical memory. I did eventually find one whom I knew did a lot of improvisation and was therefore intersted in aural approaches.
I also started Kodaly lessons (with the beautiful Cyrilla). I have been going just over a year now and thta has helped.
I spent 5 or 6 years learning the cello as a child and never had any idea if I was in tune (no electronic tuners then). I started lessons again four years ago (after many decades) and it was probably only after a couple of years that I even began to hear. I have been playing in various essembles for three years and I would say that its only quite recently that I have begun to have the ability to listen to others tuning as I play and to adjust my tuning, even then I only really tend to hear long notes, like final chords.
So don't give up. Try lots of different methods. And whatever others may say to the contrary you can defintely learn ot hear.
I found a teacher when I was preparing for my grade 6 exam who teaches theory and aural. I had already passed Grade 5 theory some years ago but she was brilliant for the aural and really helpful. She helped me listen and since my grade 6 exam, my regular flute lessons are all about playing in tune with the tuner, with the piano and with my teacher on another flute. And listening hard. And it is really really good and I'm finding the lessons to be so very helpful.
Just one question .... what is Kodaly?