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Halka
QUOTE(notmusimum @ Jan 22 2010, 02:13 PM) *

QUOTE(Halka @ Jan 22 2010, 01:44 PM) *

I don't think clarinet scales are so bad really.. Musical Maniac seems to be on top of the grade 7/8 scales (so long as she doesn't have to play them staccato!!). I think, however, to get that really lovely creamy clarinet sound takes years of dedicated practice. MM is not there yet. She sounds very good to me - until I hear her teacher play.




Emsoboe finds them confusing after playing three C instruments. I don't think they are a problem on their own or if you learn them first;

I know exactly what you mean about sound as I feel the same on Oboe. Whilst there are always lots of favourable comments and I have started to hear improvement it's not quite "there" biggrin.gif


We are now seriously off topic, but the problem with clarinet scales is not, I think, that it is not a "C instrument" but that the register key puts everything up a 12th, which is why some fingerings are like descant and some like treble recorder. MM started with recorder, but still prefers clarinet scales. Just personal taste, I guess!
Ayshah
QUOTE(notmusimum @ Jan 21 2010, 10:21 PM) *

QUOTE(STRINGMUM @ Jan 21 2010, 05:22 PM) *


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Sadly in our situation exams are important as we need them for funding, joining various ensembles and participating in other things. I am sure that pupils of Chets don't need them in the same way.

I have to say that whilst our system is far from ideal I'm not sure I'd want the one adopted by your friend. I'd rather my daughter selectively took external exams (ideal) learning technique and developing musicality along the way. I don't think I'd want my daughter facing grade 8 when it was needed for University entry (something I heard recently) after being there years. Even if she had been playing at the standard for a long time it's unneccesary pressure.


Some pupils at Chets do apply to Charities for funds and to external ensembles or go on external courses. Their teacher writes confirming they are at the level required or writes recommending they recieve funding towards instruments etc. Some of my friends pupils have recieved help this way over the last few years. I imagine teachers at junior conservatoires will also help their pupils this way as well.

I'm not saying don't take exams: It's just that some parents can feel under pressure to put their children through each exam. The last cello exam my elder son took was grade 3. We've been assured that when he applies to conservatoires in a 18 months time it really won't matter if he has grade 8 or not. Although he's well past grade 8 standard wise he may decide to take it at some point "just for the fun of it" as he put it.


Not all of the children of the parents on this thread are at JD's either. I know that pupils from Chets take external exams I met one of the staff in the waiting room once when I went with my daughter. The teacher in question was there with a pupil

You have to take into consideration the fact that pupils form Chets will have letters from their teacher written on the schools headed paper. I guess that will say plenty to funders even if it only contained a signiture. It's not quite the same as being suported by your school teacher or someone from the music service. In the last year I've discovered what a small world the music one is.


I agree with the comment on exams and funding. It is difficult to get funding without it. I have usually been asked to send a copy of my daughter's mark sheet when applying for funding. Although my daughter is at a JD, I have always asked her Head of Music at Secondary School and her individual music teacher for any necessary references for funding. Her teacher was performing in Japan and was able to write a reference and email it direct when I sent the request via a text! Whereas getting hold of teachers at the JD is not easy.

These days it is much easier to scan and email letters of reference plus URLs of performances on myspace and youtube. First time I did this I had to ask for help on this forum I didnt even know what a URL was! Recently we had to send a CD with a funding application - it was very badly made in a great hurry - as I had "lied" and said "yes we have one right here, will mail it tonight", when of course we hadnt got one wink.gif .
A year ago there is no way I could have made a music CD in a matter of hours, uploaded and sent it with photos, reference letters and all other paperwork to the relevant funding body. Now I can. Thank you forumites biggrin.gif
KixMusic
QUOTE(Dora @ Jan 21 2010, 08:39 PM) *

QUOTE(interesteredparent @ Jan 21 2010, 07:45 PM) *

Have you looked into hiring a harp - I know woodwind instruments are regulalry available to hire. We originally hired a flute to see if my daughter was interested enough to practise. Or charitable trusts like Benslow that loan instruments. Am I right in thinking that your daughter plays piano and flute? Because if she does and she wants to become a musician then opportunities are few. A third instrument which then possibly becomes her first instrument would therefore be good. Or, if you bought her one, you could always resell it.

She also plays the sax.
I think she may be happy to teach in which case I would think there would be plenty of people wanting to learn the instruments she is playing.
But I do hear you. Periodically I suggest that she tries the oboe or basson for exactly the reasons you give but she says no to them.
I'm still hoping she opts for mathematics which has given me a good living.
I have looked at hiring a harp and, don't tell my engineering husband who would have to do it, I have even found plans for building a harp for sale on the internet.
I'm wondering if it might be a good thing to do after she gets Grade 8 on the sax and presumably stops lessons. I don't know.
I must have missed this bit in the baby manual.
Dora

QUOTE(Banjogirl @ Jan 21 2010, 08:32 PM) *

Having a watched a harpist's dad come out of orchestra quarter of an hour before the end, spend that quarter of an hour getting the harp into their quite large car and then watching the daughter squeeze in the only available remaining seat, and all with the aid of a special trolley and set of steps, I would NEVER encourage any of mine to play the harp!

I also wanted to play the harp as a teenager and asked my school music teacher about it. He said, 'Yes, fine. You get a harp and I'll find you a teacher.' Great, I thought, until my mum bluntly pointed out what a harp would cost and that we couldn't afford one, and that was the end of that.


And you are still on good terms with your mother and don't feel your life was blighted. There is hope.
Thanks
Dora


Sorry if I am being a bit dense and missed this in one of your posts, but WHY will Beth stop sax lessons after G8? My daughter got a distinction at G8 on trombone last march (she was 11) and has continued her lessons - exploring repertoire, entering festivals, gaining performance skills and crucial technical skills too. In fact, she missed most of last term lesson wise due to a combination of her teacher being unavailable and my daughter breaking her arm and my goodness didn't it show! The snow made things tricky at the start of this year but she has managed 2 lessons in the last couple of weeks and has one booked for next week and is back on a roll now. Lessons at post grade 8 are critical for performance to continue to develop when the player achieves G8 young (as I am guessing Beth will as I seem to remember her only being a year or so older than my daughter?) in my opinion so it might be worth thinking about continuing the sax lessons rather than starting harp.
Dora
QUOTE(KixMusic @ Jan 22 2010, 03:41 PM) *

QUOTE(Dora @ Jan 21 2010, 08:39 PM) *

QUOTE(interesteredparent @ Jan 21 2010, 07:45 PM) *

Have you looked into hiring a harp - I know woodwind instruments are regulalry available to hire. We originally hired a flute to see if my daughter was interested enough to practise. Or charitable trusts like Benslow that loan instruments. Am I right in thinking that your daughter plays piano and flute? Because if she does and she wants to become a musician then opportunities are few. A third instrument which then possibly becomes her first instrument would therefore be good. Or, if you bought her one, you could always resell it.

She also plays the sax.
I think she may be happy to teach in which case I would think there would be plenty of people wanting to learn the instruments she is playing.
But I do hear you. Periodically I suggest that she tries the oboe or basson for exactly the reasons you give but she says no to them.
I'm still hoping she opts for mathematics which has given me a good living.
I have looked at hiring a harp and, don't tell my engineering husband who would have to do it, I have even found plans for building a harp for sale on the internet.
I'm wondering if it might be a good thing to do after she gets Grade 8 on the sax and presumably stops lessons. I don't know.
I must have missed this bit in the baby manual.
Dora

QUOTE(Banjogirl @ Jan 21 2010, 08:32 PM) *

Having a watched a harpist's dad come out of orchestra quarter of an hour before the end, spend that quarter of an hour getting the harp into their quite large car and then watching the daughter squeeze in the only available remaining seat, and all with the aid of a special trolley and set of steps, I would NEVER encourage any of mine to play the harp!

I also wanted to play the harp as a teenager and asked my school music teacher about it. He said, 'Yes, fine. You get a harp and I'll find you a teacher.' Great, I thought, until my mum bluntly pointed out what a harp would cost and that we couldn't afford one, and that was the end of that.


And you are still on good terms with your mother and don't feel your life was blighted. There is hope.
Thanks
Dora


Sorry if I am being a bit dense and missed this in one of your posts, but WHY will Beth stop sax lessons after G8? My daughter got a distinction at G8 on trombone last march (she was 11) and has continued her lessons - exploring repertoire, entering festivals, gaining performance skills and crucial technical skills too. In fact, she missed most of last term lesson wise due to a combination of her teacher being unavailable and my daughter breaking her arm and my goodness didn't it show! The snow made things tricky at the start of this year but she has managed 2 lessons in the last couple of weeks and has one booked for next week and is back on a roll now. Lessons at post grade 8 are critical for performance to continue to develop when the player achieves G8 young (as I am guessing Beth will as I seem to remember her only being a year or so older than my daughter?) in my opinion so it might be worth thinking about continuing the sax lessons rather than starting harp.


My logic is that she should then focus on the flute and play the sax for fun only, which is what her sax teacher did. She is now studying the flute at Guildhall. But you are probably right. The trouble is post Grade 8 I would prefer her to have lessons at the Conservatoire and that is going to be hard to fit in with piano and flute even if she has singing lessons at home.
I need a new plan!!!!
Dora
Panthera
QUOTE(Dora @ Jan 21 2010, 07:01 PM) *

But what if she was really meant to play the harp and I've stopped her?

Then she can learn it as an adult! There wasn't a harp teacher anywhere near us when I was growing up, so I only started lessons aged 28 and (finally!) treated myself to a pedal harp.

notmusimum
QUOTE(Dora @ Jan 22 2010, 06:03 PM) *


My logic is that she should then focus on the flute and play the sax for fun only, which is what her sax teacher did. She is now studying the flute at Guildhall. But you are probably right. The trouble is post Grade 8 I would prefer her to have lessons at the Conservatoire and that is going to be hard to fit in with piano and flute even if she has singing lessons at home.
I need a new plan!!!!
Dora



Does her current teacher not go beyond Grade 8? If she does and you are happy with the teaching I'd stay. If the teacher has little or no experience beyond Grade 8 I think I'd change after 7.

It is possible to do 3 studies or maybe you could switch Piano to outside the Conservatoire.

The difficult thing I find is working out where I to go next.
Mad Tom
QUOTE(notmusimum @ Jan 22 2010, 08:24 PM) *

Does her current teacher not go beyond Grade 8? If she does and you are happy with the teaching I'd stay. If the teacher has little or no experience beyond Grade 8 I think I'd change after 7.

Poor teacher. If everyone thought like that she'd never get experience of teaching to Grade 8. sad.gif

In fact how did she ever manage to teach up to Grade 7? Why didn't everyone leave after Grade 6? rolleyes.gif

... Come to think of it ... how did she ever get to take students therough any of the grades. wacko.gif

"Yossarian"

Dora
QUOTE(Mad Tom @ Jan 22 2010, 07:01 PM) *

QUOTE(notmusimum @ Jan 22 2010, 08:24 PM) *

Does her current teacher not go beyond Grade 8? If she does and you are happy with the teaching I'd stay. If the teacher has little or no experience beyond Grade 8 I think I'd change after 7.

Poor teacher. If everyone thought like that she'd never get experience of teaching to Grade 8. sad.gif

In fact how did she ever manage to teach up to Grade 7? Why didn't everyone leave after Grade 6? rolleyes.gif

... Come to think of it ... how did she ever get to take students therough any of the grades. wacko.gif

"Yossarian"


Her teacher is a very experienced full time member of the local music service who came highly recommended by her last teacher.
I am very happy with the work that she is doing with Beth. Because they have an hour a week she is able to spend time on aural and they have also done some improvisation which I assume is extremely useful for Beth.
I guess I think of music services as going up to Grade 8 and then passing children over to other bodies. Since I have little/no experience of any of this I'm more than happy to be corrected.
So time for a new thread I think. "What do music services do?"
Thanks
Dora
notmusimum
QUOTE(Mad Tom @ Jan 22 2010, 07:01 PM) *

QUOTE(notmusimum @ Jan 22 2010, 08:24 PM) *

Does her current teacher not go beyond Grade 8? If she does and you are happy with the teaching I'd stay. If the teacher has little or no experience beyond Grade 8 I think I'd change after 7.

Poor teacher. If everyone thought like that she'd never get experience of teaching to Grade 8. sad.gif

In fact how did she ever manage to teach up to Grade 7? Why didn't everyone leave after Grade 6? rolleyes.gif

... Come to think of it ... how did she ever get to take students therough any of the grades. wacko.gif

"Yossarian"



Some teachers are happy to take students to a certain point and then for them to move on. I was unsure if that was the case here. I would only change teacher if I couldn't see any progress or for other reasons which perhaps don't relate to teaching at all.

I was trying to establish why Dora felt the need to move or quit after Grade 8.

Just had a thought that most students take Grade 8 in year 12 or 13 so post teaching isn't a problem.

QUOTE(Dora @ Jan 22 2010, 07:50 PM) *

Her teacher is a very experienced full time member of the local music service who came highly recommended by her last teacher.
I am very happy with the work that she is doing with Beth. Because they have an hour a week she is able to spend time on aural and they have also done some improvisation which I assume is extremely useful for Beth.
I guess I think of music services as going up to Grade 8 and then passing children over to other bodies. Since I have little/no experience of any of this I'm more than happy to be corrected.
So time for a new thread I think. "What do music services do?"
Thanks
Dora



I think you will find it varies between Music Services and instruments. There are post Grade 8 students at ours though not many. There are Jazz Grades too if Beth is interested in improvising.

One of our teachers was talking about post grade 8 and the technical things needing to be covered along with expansion of repertoire. A couple of years worth of work mentally planed already laugh.gif
KixMusic
QUOTE(Dora @ Jan 22 2010, 07:50 PM) *

QUOTE(Mad Tom @ Jan 22 2010, 07:01 PM) *

QUOTE(notmusimum @ Jan 22 2010, 08:24 PM) *

Does her current teacher not go beyond Grade 8? If she does and you are happy with the teaching I'd stay. If the teacher has little or no experience beyond Grade 8 I think I'd change after 7.

Poor teacher. If everyone thought like that she'd never get experience of teaching to Grade 8. sad.gif

In fact how did she ever manage to teach up to Grade 7? Why didn't everyone leave after Grade 6? rolleyes.gif

... Come to think of it ... how did she ever get to take students therough any of the grades. wacko.gif

"Yossarian"


Her teacher is a very experienced full time member of the local music service who came highly recommended by her last teacher.
I am very happy with the work that she is doing with Beth. Because they have an hour a week she is able to spend time on aural and they have also done some improvisation which I assume is extremely useful for Beth.
I guess I think of music services as going up to Grade 8 and then passing children over to other bodies. Since I have little/no experience of any of this I'm more than happy to be corrected.
So time for a new thread I think. "What do music services do?"
Thanks
Dora


Well as a guide, I worked for my local music service for over 10 years and I teach beginners to post diploma level on all brass instruments (except tuba which I only teach to G8 as I just don't know the repertoire well enough past that) but the children I taught solely within the music service rarely made it past grade 6 or 7 due to the duration and timetabling of the lessons. My private students who are doing upper grades/performances (Grade 7 and beyond) all have an hour long lessons a week which can't be accommodated in the school/music service set-up.
BerkshireMum
QUOTE(Dora @ Jan 22 2010, 08:50 PM) *

I guess I think of music services as going up to Grade 8 and then passing children over to other bodies. Since I have little/no experience of any of this I'm more than happy to be corrected.
So time for a new thread I think. "What do music services do?"
Thanks
Dora

Our music service in Berkshire will take you at least as far as first diploma level. Youngsters are prepared for diplomas if they want to do them, but those performers who definitely want a career in music are advised to join one of the London junior conservatoires and encouraged to audition for NYO or NYWO.
notmusimum
QUOTE(dcmbarton @ Jan 22 2010, 10:51 PM) *

I might be speaking out of turn here...

I suppose that in all this, the one thing to keep in mind is that during these years, interests and circumstances tend to change so quickly, that whilst it's good to have future plans in mind, I guess that it's not too far fetched to expect them to all be thrown into the melting pot in a few years time.



I think your point is very sensible David. Our youngest wants a career in music but I'm perfectly prepared for her to change her mind. I haven't tried to influence her one way or the other it has to be her decision.

As for enjoyment she is getting lots of that too. She particularly loves the Harmony Orchestra, with it's variety of players, and Juniors for playing opportunities, socialising and learning. It's hard work, yet hopefully it will help with the long term decision.

I do think though it's better to prepare for a career in music, if that's what they think they want, even if it's not persued it ultimately. We've seen threads about people who decide in sixth form they really want it and don't have all the qualifications or experience to fulfill their dream.

Banjogirl
I was talking to a lday recently whose daughter had gone to ballet school in her early teens then on to London company and had some time with Ballet Rambert. Then, aged twenty, she decided she didn't want to be a ballet dancer after all and is looking for work as a nanny. But I don't think she or her mum regretted what she'd done. I do think her mum felt she'd missed out on the normal part of being a teenager though and having time to relax. I'm a great believer in it being a bad thing to have every moment filled with activities, even if they're things you want to do. I think everyone needs time to be bored and do nothing for their mental well being.
notmusimum
QUOTE(Banjogirl @ Jan 23 2010, 05:38 PM) *

I was talking to a lday recently whose daughter had gone to ballet school in her early teens then on to London company and had some time with Ballet Rambert. Then, aged twenty, she decided she didn't want to be a ballet dancer after all and is looking for work as a nanny. But I don't think she or her mum regretted what she'd done. I do think her mum felt she'd missed out on the normal part of being a teenager though and having time to relax. I'm a great believer in it being a bad thing to have every moment filled with activities, even if they're things you want to do. I think everyone needs time to be bored and do nothing for their mental well being.



At least she had the chance to try and find out it wasn't for her. Maybe in a few years she might think about teaching.

It's not always easy with a busy musical life but at least there are times when you can socialise at band. My daughter has done well for spending time with her friends this weekend biggrin.gif

I can't remember her ever being bored. When she's time there's always the kitchen to dive into and a cake to make.
interesteredparent
Its never quite so straight forwards is it though. At 16 they have to make subject choices. My daughter was trying to keep her options open between medicine and music but by trying to do this she would have had to 3 science A levels plus music. Also to practise her instrument and to do some voluntary work in a hospital. It was clearly going to be too much. So she chose music. (she can always change her mind at a later date) She has been told (masterclasses, tutors) that she ought to be practising 4 hours a day if she wants to make it as a musician. But still the English schools ask you to do 3 academic subjects at A level.

Both careers she chose are highly competitive and so, yes, hard work does overtake fun on the daily basis. To achieve in either of these areas does involve a lot of pressure. Sometimes I wish she had never picked up an instrument - that she went to school and then went out having fun with her friends in the evenings. Or that she was able to play music at a 'fun' level, whatever that may mean. I don't quite know when music became so serious although I do know that many teenagers feel pressure nowadays. But you can't change their personality and if you have a serious minded offspring you just have to go along with it, being in the background to provide a balance - if they will listen to you!

Having said all this she loves the highs of her successes (finds the setbacks very hard to deal with) and fundamentally she loves performing. And a lot of socialising goes on in orchestras.
Dora
QUOTE(dcmbarton @ Jan 22 2010, 10:51 PM) *

I might be speaking out of turn here...

I suppose that in all this, the one thing to keep in mind is that during these years, interests and circumstances tend to change so quickly, that whilst it's good to have future plans in mind, I guess that it's not too far fetched to expect them to all be thrown into the melting pot in a few years time.

For example, throughout my whole school life, I vowed I would never work in music - I saw it as my hobby and I felt that if I made a career out of it, I wouldn't enjoy it anymore...what did I do? I ended up with a career in music...

Above all, they should enjoy what they're doing now, not necessarily because of where it might take them in the future. If they enjoy playing lots of instruments and taking lots of exams, then good for them, and this should be encouraged and supported. You never know what opportunities and challenges are round the corner; what they enjoy now, they could hate in 10 years time.

Above all, they should never lose sight of the enjoyment of music - the emotional expression, the benefits of making music with others etc. etc.


One of the benefits for me of having children was to learn to live for today. Beth knows that there is no pressure or expectation on her to be a musician. Her other career plan is to run a kennels!!!! It is her life. The deal is that if she has the lessons she has to practice but the Junior Conservatoire is a one year at a time deal.
We do try to fit her practice in round the other things she wants to do and as has already been said there is a great deal of socialising within music which she enjoys.
Interestingly from the age of about 9 I adored maths, lived it and breathed it. Never changed my mind. We seem, as a family, not to switch interests very much. I still enjoy pretty much the same things I did when I was a child and my children have been pretty constant so far. And if that changes I will enjoy what we move on to. Music was not a significant part of my life at all until all this happened and I'm having fun.
Dora
notaclue
Mu daughter is only 9 - the other day shewas wondering how she can be a musician, an author and an astronomer at the same time. She is interested in all of them equally. She came up with the idea that she will bejava script:emoticon(':D',%20'smid_5') an astronomer at night and musician and author in the morning - dont know how long this phase will last?
Dora
QUOTE(notaclue @ Jan 24 2010, 10:07 AM) *

Mu daughter is only 9 - the other day shewas wondering how she can be a musician, an author and an astronomer at the same time. She is interested in all of them equally. She came up with the idea that she will bejava script:emoticon(':D',%20'smid_5') an astronomer at night and musician and author in the morning - dont know how long this phase will last?


I like her thinking. Live music is often played in the evenings so she could perform and then go straight out to her telescopes. Sleep in the morning and then write before performing or during boring bits in rehearsals or while the sky is cloudy.
Dora (the "can do" girl)
Roseau
QUOTE(notaclue @ Jan 24 2010, 11:07 AM) *

Mu daughter is only 9 - the other day shewas wondering how she can be a musician, an author and an astronomer at the same time. She is interested in all of them equally. She came up with the idea that she will bejava script:emoticon(':D',%20'smid_5') an astronomer at night and musician and author in the morning - dont know how long this phase will last?

When my daughter started having piano lessons aged about seven, she said she wanted to be a farmer and a piano teacher and decided she could combine the two by teaching the cows to play the piano laugh.gif

vectistim
QUOTE(Dora @ Jan 21 2010, 08:39 PM) *

I have looked at hiring a harp and, don't tell my engineering husband who would have to do it, I have even found plans for building a harp for sale on the internet.


I believe someone I know had his harpsichord built in a similar manner by the local tech college.
musicbox
I think it depends on the person, I had to grade 5's (piano and flute) and a grade 3 (singing) in the space of a week a fewyears ago but was well prepared so didn't mind and now have to grade 6s (flute and singing) and a grade 3 (guitar) in this session and again I'm nto particularly bothered but you should definitly only do waht you can. And considering Beth is only 13 that probably is a little over loading!
Dora
QUOTE(musicbox @ Feb 24 2010, 09:46 PM) *

I think it depends on the person, I had to grade 5's (piano and flute) and a grade 3 (singing) in the space of a week a fewyears ago but was well prepared so didn't mind and now have to grade 6s (flute and singing) and a grade 3 (guitar) in this session and again I'm nto particularly bothered but you should definitly only do waht you can. And considering Beth is only 13 that probably is a little over loading!

Fortunately for us Beth's flute teacher has said she doesn't want her taking anything else in the same session as the flute. I do have a possible solution though. The Grade 7 will be at the beginning of July and school seem to run a special visit around 20th July. I might enter her there for the singing and piano.
Dora
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