QUOTE(aesir22 @ Oct 8 2010, 07:12 PM)

I don't think its belittling to women at all. Bella knows what she wants - Edward.
Aren't two books dedicated to her inability to decide what she wants: Jacob or Edward? New Moon and Eclipse are both about that.
QUOTE(aesir22 @ Oct 8 2010, 07:12 PM)

And even when he tries and tries consistently to say no, its not a life he wants her to live, she is adamant that she can make her own choices and will.
But only about him. She chooses Edward, and then he's the only thing in her life. She has nothing else. Her life is so empty without Edward that in New Moon, Stephenie Meyer uses blank pages with month names on them to signify Bella's life without him. She chooses to focus on a man, and have no autonomous life.
Anyway, Bella doesn't choose. Edward decides she should live her life without him. He then leaves. She shuts down. How is that exercising her choice? The only thing that wakes Bella up again when she is in this state is... Her relationship with another man.
Ultimately Edward makes the decision to come back and be in Bella's life again. Bella has control of none of this. Bella doesn't have control of anything. Bella doesn't do anything - things just happen to her.
QUOTE(aesir22 @ Oct 8 2010, 07:12 PM)

When Jacob chases her she says firmly that yes she loves him but can't be with him because she wants Edward. I'd say Bella has the strongest character.
She says that firmly, yes. Then he forces her to kiss him. Then she decides that she didn't know what she meant and didn't know what she wanted, because she loves Jacob... Obviously Jacob and Edward knew what she wanted much better than she did.
Ultimately, yes! She makes her one decision - Edward over Jacob. Are you saying that in choosing a man, she's taken control of her entire life? I think that's what Meyer implies, but also that it's inherently problematic. She can choose a man, and then he will ensure that life keeps just happening to her. He takes control of everything from that point on...
QUOTE(aesir22 @ Oct 8 2010, 07:12 PM)

She constantly sticks up for her beliefs and opinions and morals in a town where people think differently.
I'm not sure what your evidence for this is. In what way is Bella a rebel? She has nothing to rebel against. I suppose her father makes a perfunctory effort to prevent her from seeing Edward, but it's never presented as something that she has to fight against. There is no small-town mindset against which she rebels...
To rebel, you'd have to have a personality, and a system of values beyond: "Oooh! Pretty sparkles!"