My mum who is 78 has just come out of intensive care and is now in Trauma ward in the John Radcliffe Hopsital in Oxford - she had a 9 hour operation on her spine - I am not there and I just want to hold her hand - hugs needed for her and if there were one or two spare I may borrow one .....

Hugs for you both Hope she recovers quickly.

Hugs from me too.




The JR is a very very good hospital, she'll get the best of care there. So hopefully she'll make a swift and full recovery.

Thankyou both x

Love and hugs to you both. And if you don't mind prayers, those too xxx

They'll be lovely xx

Hugs from me also Trudi. I hope your mum recovers quickly.

Hugs from me too Hope your mother gets better soon x

thank you molly and missy piano xx

Thoughts, prayers and hugs given.

Members of this forum have been here for me when I have been in need, it's good to be able to reciprocate.

I know hubby needed all the friends he could get when I was in Intensive Care earlier this year.

Thinking of you. It's horrible being far away and feeling helpless at a time like that. Best wishes for her speedy recovery.

Hugs from me too.

Thankyou andante in c, andante and jod - these hugs are making me feel better ...

Best wishes Trudi to you and to your Mum, its horrible being so far away, but as another poster has said, the JR is one of the best hospitals and will give her the best care possible. Hope she recovers really quickly and you are able to stay in touch and get plenty of updates to set your mind at rest.

You can never have too many hugs so one from me as well :hugs:

I wish your Mum a speedy and successful recovery.

Hugs to you, and gentle hugs to your mum too.

Thank you x

Collyermum and CJB thank you so much x

Hope Mum gets well soon.

Thanks stetenorve

I hope all goes well x

Trudihiggins, as you know, I happen to have met your mum, since she taught my little sister's class in primary school....a good few years ago now, but it makes what you say all the more real.

So yes, of course, hugs aplenty, and greetings too: hoping she makes a speedy recovery, and that you're not too exhausted by the experience of doing the watching, waiting, supportive family part of it all.

I hope your mother recovers soon Hugs all around.

Well I can but wait - so my other sisters are doing all the rest - I ring in every eve to find out how she is - at the mo I can't talk to her - she's too poorly
thanks for your well wishes
x

Cyrilla, Stephie
thank you
hugs are beginning to take the place of planes across the channel

Big hugs to both of you, and hope she's feeling much better very soon, trudi

Thank you Fran Piano - very kind

Best wishes to your mum for a very speedy recovery, and also best wishes to you, trudihiggins.

for you and your mum, and all the best to your mum for a speedy recovery

Just read the thread - a very big hug to you and to you mum too. I'm sure she will soon be feeling better.
She is in good hands. take care - bon courage!

PianoNotes, jazzycat, Aquarelle
thank you for yourb hugs

Trudi,


Best wishes to your Mum for a speedy recovery

Sending you and all your family a warm HUG xx

Agree with all that's said before

Hugs, prayers and best wishes all speeding their way towards you

More hugs and best wishes all the way from Central America!!!

Trudi, as a person who put my family through ###### being the patient in intensive care, then going through the recovery and getting out within 48 hours, then going, in my case onto a burns unit for a further 48 hours before returning home without half of my hair and a face full of scars, I feel a sense almost of survivors guilt at what I put my poor relatives through when I hear someone like you express their anxiety about a sick relative. Like you, my family were some distance away as the burns unit that had an intensive care bed was in London and my family was in Cambridgeshire. My husband was able to see me... once he had flown back from Gibraltar where he was visiting his brother, and there were lots of people who were very worried.

As I type this and share with the forum my thoughts rather than just send it as a PM, there is the obvious message of hope as I'm here, and I hope and pray that your mother makes a good recovery in the Radcliffe. It is an excellent hospital, and I'm certain that the nursing and medical care she will receive will be excellent.

Intensive care is bewildering as a patient, but there is a point you hit when you say "I'm going to get better" and at that point you recover very fast. Or at least that was my experience. I hope you find that useful and that your mum does the same thing.

Huge big hug on its way to you. Wishing your mum a very speedy recovery.

Once again thank you to Blackbird77 ,lottie, Juniper
katica, pianophrase for your hugs and good wishes and prayers and jod for sharing your obviously very painful and harrowing experience with us -
My mum is not well not my mum at the moment - she is depressed and wishes she had not taken the option of having surgery and wants to go to Switzerland and die with grace so she told my sister last night - I am stuck here in France - no contact apart from updates from my family - I can't go and squeeze her hand and say'it's going to be ok mummy' I feel so very useless - she is dehydrated and this morning had a black out because of low blood pressure
I don't know what to do apart from cry

Hugs to you trudi. Your mum's probably just hit the low point and very soon she'll turn the corner and feel better. I'm sure your sisters are doing all they can, and the only thing you can do is keep very positive thoughts and say a prayer if you feel inclined. Can your sisters actually organise a phone so that you can speak to your mum or are phones (the hospital ones on trolleys) not allowed in ICU?

I hope your mum soon feels better.

More good wishes and

Sorry to hear it's going so hard with her

I hope she improves in spirits and health soon. And in the mean time I'm thinking of you...

they have 'media centres' my mum is too weak and tired to use on and they are exspensive
so no go area
thanks for all your support ABRSM forum people
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
my musical family

Hi trudihiggins

I am very sorry things are very difficult for you and your family and hope that your mum will start to move in the right direction towards recovering. Best wishes.

Each word of encouragement and well wishes makes a move in the right direction
xx

Sending hugs in your direction

Hugs and prayers trudi and mum! Take care.... hope it gets better soon

Wishing you and your family all the very best at this difficult time.

Hoping your mum feels better really soon, Trudi

It seems that the medical and nursing team in the John Radcliffe have come up trumps - my mum was doing a crossword with my sister tonight - dehydration, tinitus, and blackouts a thing of the past - I am and they are feeling really positive about my mum's recovery
and THANKS TO ALL OF YOU HERE - I have found it easier to deal with - my musical friends - you are all an active part in my mum's improvement and I THANK YOU ALL
musical lovings and hugs
Trudi

So glad to hear such positive news!

Hugs again then - and hoping you can get to see her or at least talk to her very soon .