QUOTE(Organistin @ Apr 27 2011, 11:26 AM)
I was asked to accompany a trumpeter and a singer once as well as play the hymns for a wedding.
Both of them were very obnoxious and full of themselves. They could play and sing very well so all credit to them for that.
However, the trumpeter was just rude and at the practice we played through the piece once and I wanted to go over 2 bars again which hadn't gone well - mainly because she had put in an unmarked rit when playing which I wasn't expecting. I wanted to do it again just to be sure of exactly how much rit she was doing and she said, "No, I've played enough today and if you aren't a good enough player to keep in time with me then that is your problem". Well, I was speechless.... I accompany a lot and I've never had anyone say anything like that before. It was only 2 bars for goodness sake.
The singer seemed ok until I started the first hymn whereupon she came over and while I was playing started telling me that I was out of time with the congregation and was playing too fast and then started conducting me. I ignored her and she just started conducting more wildly and saying "too fast". I was absolutely fuming. I am the sort of person who doesn't mind constructive criticism and I am the first to admit if I have botched something up but I thought that was well out of order. She started laying into me after that hymn while the service was going on and said I was ruining the bride and groom's big day.
What a cheek. In that church when you play in the organ loft it always sounds like you are ahead of the congregation and if you don't keep the tempo up and preempt them a bit then it very quickly goes completely haywire. I've played that organ on TV, accompanying hymns and I have watched the DVD several times and it was never out of time with the congregation so I know what I am doing!
But this singer... she was just vile to me about it. I asked her not to conduct and make comments but during the other hymns she kept doing it, sighing at me and waving her arms, shaking her head and saying how bad I was!
That is a disgrace. In my view you would have been well within your rights to ask the singer to vacate the organ loft forthwith, (whilst going forth and multiplying of course
), or alternatively showing her where to switch the blower off when she had finished the voluntary.
Weddings and funerals seem to bring out the worst in some people, especially when they are trying to make a big show of things. My pet hate is wedding photographers, who seem to think the whole show is staged only for their benefit, and that everybody should comply with their timetable. Even worse, many of them deliberately try to block the view of anyone with a half decent camera. After all, they charge 2,000 pounds or more these days, so what more do they want?
I was asked to take some photographs at a friends daughter's wedding, and this was agreed with the official photographer in advance. The day was bright, and the light was good, so I took the opportunity to use my medium format film camera. However, when the photographer saw me using it she became very hostile. I explained that she had previously agreed to me taking photographs, but she said she hadn't realised that I would be using a film camera, and that if I continued she walk off the job.
She and I both know that MF film is far superior to digital; yet she chose to use digital to make her life easier, and then refused to allow me to use a film camera!
In the event, her photogaphs were a dissapointment, and had it not been for the few images that I and other guests took the album would have been very thin indeed.