QUOTE(Blackbird77 @ Aug 10 2011, 05:37 PM)
Just wanted to add a little update........have now seen the comments sheet and I have to admit that the examiner tried to let me down as gently as they could. There was some good constructive feedback and it implies that nerves cost me a pass - I wasn't expecting a comments sheet that appears to be so sensitively written.
OH arranged for me to have a consultation lesson and it was wonderful - for the first time in ages, I'm excited and can't wait to pick up the violin
As a nervous performer myself I know how much nerves can affect playing. And I know also of 2 adult pianists who failed exams through nerves - if that's any consolation.
But I also know that lots of experience playing in front of people helps to manage the nerves, particularly if you wheel out the exam pieces, for example. So if you have friends round for coffee, or something similar, ask them earn their coffee by listening to your beautiful music. If you play a piece several times in front of an audience you become more confident that it will go well.
Well done for persevering and lovely that you have a very supportive OH.
(By the way, one of the pianists I mentioned above got on with her pieces again, and had another go and passed.)