QUOTE(tetrachord @ Oct 23 2011, 10:42 AM)

This is very frustrating! I know that I heard that the association between major/ happy and minor/sad wasn't there originally and developed later on but I can't remember when it started to develop. Someone on these forums did say it's a bad idea to teach pupils this connection in order to teach them the sound of major as opposed to minor for this very reason, that not all major music is happy and not all minor music is sad.
Hasn't really answered your question at all, sorry!

I think the happy/sad aspect came into play once major and minor tonalities began to develop and predominate, in the baroque era, so it will be well established by Bach or Vivaldi's time, but more tenuous in, say, Monteverdi or even Purcell. I feel strongly that it's to do with the major third being more of a "lift" from the tonic. I like to show blues harmonies by giving a major triad (not to low) in the left hand, and an undulation over a tonic to minor third in the right. "This music is basically not unhappy, but, man, I'm feelin' too lazy, too tired, it's too hot, to go all the way to a major third"

Try it the other way around, it just doesn't work at all.
I like to do the whole major-minor thing like this:
Play Alouette (or something else, but I find Alouette does this very well) in C major
Play, or get pupil to play, with a minor 3rd instead. Often they'll say it's "less cheerful" and you point out it's in the minor.
Then go down to the bottom of the piano and play it in octaves a lot slower and fortissimo. Does that sound sad? Nope, it sounds threatening. Try it like that but in the major. Now that just sounds wrong. It's slightly missed the point.
Now play Alouette fairly low on the keyboard but pianissimo - not sad, but spooky, scary. Does that work in the major? No, it just sounds a bit silly.
So minors aren't always sad, but they are usually more "moody" in some way or other. More interesting.
If a piece in the minor sounds really cheerful, as you have mentioned some dances, it possibly sounds more modal than minor, and gives an ancient, historic, possibly even "innocence of times past" feel.