I agree with Violinia!
I also agree with Nat
I can't help it! I am the Good Friday - ing, boundary - fudging, no crackling debate-ing person that Violinia associates with this rocking little island.
The reason I agree with Violinia is that I think aiming for a pupil to be merit standard before taking an exam (she never said distinction standard) represents, as a general default option, a standard which indicates a very comfortable ability at all elements of that grade stage, and a corresponding full preparedness to move on to the next stage.
The reason I agree with Nat is that I think against whatever ideal starting point a teacher embarks from, every individual person's circumstances are different. I agree that Nat's best example of what she is saying is herself. She is progressing rapidly through her music exams and towards the qualifications she needs to study music at university level. As I understand it she has focussed on a need to get to Grade V theory, Grade V piano, and Grade VIII principle instrument without years of spare time to do it in.
I would feel wounded, just as Nat does, if I wanted to be a music teacher, and saw my own good pass marks at high grade levels being described by other teachers as disappointing, or embarassing, or devastating.
But I think Nat does herself and her future pupils (of whom I am sure there will be throngs) an immense disservice if she views the progress of her grade marks as indicative of the fact that she can in some way be pigeonholed as a "pass student" as opposed to a "merit student" or a "distinction student". There are not three tracks for three different types of human being. I hope, even with her capacity for self-deprecation, that if she thinks about it carefully Nat would agree with me that if she re-sat grade I on any of her instruments tomorrow, she would pass with distinction. I have no great confidence in my own playing, but I'd put a few quid on myself to get a distinction in grade I violin if I took it tomorrow, despite never having got a distinction in any of my exams. This is because I know my mark would be based not on the number of stars orbiting my noble brow, but on how well I could knock out some grade I pieces, scales, aural tests and sight-reading, measured by grade I standards.
There is no "mystical aura of distinctionly-ness" from which any of us are excluded in grade exams. It's about how good a job you do on various tests at the level you go in for.
The reason I say Nat would do herself and her future students a disservice to view herself as a constitutional "pass student" as opposed to someone who has hurried through the grades for sound practical reasons, is that I believe
from what I have read of her love of music and her success in exams, that Nat has the capacity one day, whether it be in a year's time, four years or ten years, to know exactly what it takes to get a clarinet distinction at grade VIII and at every other level. But if she sees herself as a person who will only ever be a pass student, rather than as a person who just happens to be at that stage now, it will be very difficult for her to bring out the best in her pupils.
As I only have a stock of about 3 anecdotes which I have already exhausted on this forum, I find myself repeating one I have mentioned before: Roger Coull took up violin at 11, as just one of a series of fleeting interests. At 14 he was an undistinguished grade 4 player whose teacher would not have described him as particularly musical or gifted. By chance he attended a new orchestra which was starting up. About 100 musicians attended, and somebody pointed at him randomly and told him to lead the orchestra. He couldn't play the music. He didn't want to lose his place as leader. He practised 4hrs a day and by the next rehearsal he could play everything. He passed grade VIII within one year and went on to become an internationally recognised violinist as leader of the Coull String quartet. If he had measured his potential in terms of his progress through the early grades, as opposed to his hopes for the future, none of this would have happened.