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#1340456 Thinking of packing it in

Posted by edgmusic on 01 September 2017 - 21:07

As I am on line
Apologies if you are not.
But are you trolling? It's against forum rules.
If you want to 'retire' do it. It's your decision. Go get a "low status role working for a big company". [/size]
How can we offer advice as you have the figures to make a living out of teaching or not!\[/size]
Stop wasting people's time.


A bit harsh, I feel. I saw nothing in the post to suggest trolling.

The poster is having doubts about continuing and looking for support and advice from others on the forum. That's what we are for. Many teachers on here have probably had similar feelings at some time over the years.

I found your blunt response very unhelpful and disappointing.
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#1291815 What's Made You Happy Today.... ?

Posted by Maizie on 28 May 2015 - 15:36

A benign meningioma.

Essentially, if you had to pick a type of brain tumour to have, it's the one you'd choose.  And it's what I've got!


Future discussion will take place with a radiologist about whether to treat now or monitor and treat later if necessary (there are good arguments either way) - but it's all suddenly gone very relaxed and non-urgent (growth being ~1mm per year).


I'm really looking forward to a good night's sleep tonight...the 27 days since the 'you have a brain tumour' phone call have been somewhat intense!


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#1334421 A message from the past!

Posted by jenny on 23 April 2017 - 16:48

I just got a follow up email from him - he's now an airline pilot living in the channel islands. He closed the message by saying 'Thank you for setting me off on a hobby that I am still enjoying 47 years later!'  :)

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#1346725 Completely gutted

Posted by susiejean on 19 January 2018 - 09:33


A very nice man gave me his email address and allowed me to scan him in a completed form.

Phew. woot.gif

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#1258675 What's Made You Happy Today.... ?

Posted by Misterioso on 13 June 2014 - 13:13

Thrilled to bits today to hear that younger son has got a 2:1 in his B Mus!  :woot:


It's been such a long journey for him due to various complications along the way so this is Seriously Good News!  :D

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#1300310 Coping with non-practising bores who make up the numbers?

Posted by Impressionist on 12 September 2015 - 19:36

Good Lord, Mickey, you sound like my 16 year old.  The  majority of people contributing to this forum are people who can form a coherent argument without resorting to personal insults and can take on board some constructive criticism. 

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#1300308 Coping with non-practising bores who make up the numbers?

Posted by Impressionist on 12 September 2015 - 19:23

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#1273181 Was told that Grade 8 means nothing. Thoughts?

Posted by UnnaturalHarmonics on 10 November 2014 - 10:45

"If you are playing lots of concerts in your orchestras you must think about what you are putting your audience through"

:D That was my favourite bit. I expect I shall soon be hearing from the solicitors of anyone who has witnessed me and my horn in concert action.

My response would be along the lines of:

'I have considered your thoughtful post, agreed you are SPOT ON and have consequently been motivated and inspired to write to ALL the amateur orchestras in the UK requesting they either please desist at once (you're quite right, those poor audience members, forced to attend with no recourse to subsidised post-traumatic stress counselling afterwards), or hire exclusively professional musicians going forward. I feel sure that these measures will serve to raise the currently dire standards of music in the country as they will encourage participation, ensure thriving and diverse community opportunities and provide the means for members to develop personally while pursuing a hobby they can enjoy at the same time.

Oh, and I gave them your address as a reply-to. Hope that's ok. xxx'
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#1333088 Advice on wording of email to parent please

Posted by The Great Sosso on 27 March 2017 - 11:48

Well, I disagree with you, jjosiejo, although I do agree that swimming might save your life, so is a good life skill to acquire.  Never done gymnastics, so heaven knows how I've made it to my age.  Piano playing is a life skill only if the person's life is going to include the things you mention, but it is perfectly possible to have a good life without those things.  You can do what you like with your own children of course, and I am sure that I foist all sorts of stuff on my kids because I myself have enjoyed it or found it to be beneficial in my own life, but I hope that if any of those things were causing my child huge stress or anxiety, I'd be kind enough to let them stop.


Anyway, the good news is that the mother has agreed that the child should stop piano lessons.  I am relieved.  The poor girl was literally crying with the effort in her last lesson.  She was doggedly playing (at MM=52) making each finger find its note in time, her whole body was stiff and tears were running down her cheeks.  She got to the end of the piece (12 bars) and was mentally/emotionally exhausted.  So what if she never fully understands harmony and composition?  She might instead learn to play the drums, or take up judo or pottery and have a great time.

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#1300318 Coping with non-practising bores who make up the numbers?

Posted by BadStrad on 12 September 2015 - 21:27

Mickey. I do not need to get over myself as I am completely confident that my comments were given with the best of intention and have merit whether you agree with them or not. You obviously disagree, but I would just like you to consider - if your child had lessons from a teacher who was as disengaged as you describe yourself being (from your "bores") would you be happy? I think not.

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#1254958 Can't think of a (polite) response as yet...

Posted by DaisyChain on 19 May 2014 - 23:06


Sorry..have been getting drunk  MamaDaisy home after her stay with me.  Thanks for your posts! 


Well, I got there and could hear Dragon Lady's dulcet tones upstairs.  I hastily sharpened Excalibur in readiness before she came down.  

In the meantime I had a chance to clear things up with Fair Damsel, I told her I was confused because of the text I'd had from DL saying that lessons would resume after exams etc. etc.  As I suspected, FD had no idea the text had been sent, and stressed again that as much as she enjoys her lessons, she does not want to take any exams and wished her mum would stop trying to force her into doing them.  She also confirmed that tonight is definitely her last lesson.


Enter the Dragon!   First thing she does is shove the papers for the Dof E in front of me.  "Please don't forget to complete these."  "Ok- I'll do them before I leave."  "We'll speak at the end of the lesson about FD's future."  Exit the Dragon.  :ninja:  :angry:


At the end, as I'm completing the papers, DL comes in.  Excalibur is poised and ready- darkness has descended and I'm ready to let battle commence.  She draws her sword first-

"I have been trying to convince FD that she needs to have half hourly lessons every week from now until she leaves for Uni.  Tell her that she should reconsider, and that she should be sitting music exams."

Having skillfully dodged the fire emanating from DL's mouth I ask "Why?  If she says she is going to be too busy and stressed, she does not need another pressure on top of that.  Besides, we've spoken already and FD has confirmed that tonight is her last lesson.  She has the basic skills to be able to pick up simple tunes to play should she wish to use the piano for relaxation. She does not want to do exams and I will not be entering her for any."  (Excalibur is seriously twitching by now).

"I feel as her mother that she should pursue her lessons.  As her teacher, I expect you to support me with this."

"As her teacher, and as FD is old enough to make up her own mind, I respect her wishes in this matter."

*The head goes back-- fire bursts forth and singes my eyebrows.  Excalibur is in danger of drawing blood now...*

"That is disrespectful to me.  You are in my home.  Convince FD she is to take her exams."

"I am going to say goodbye to you.  There is little more to be said now.  You can expect a letter from me in the next day or two.  All the best to you FD."


At that, I leave, and (joking aside) have never been so relieved.  I expected to have got an email by now, but so far it's been quiet.  I have sat here and written the letter,  Short and to the point, and ending with the fact that I will not  be going to their house any more to teach FD.  I have advised that there are plenty of other teachers in the area or they can look online.


Poor FD.  :(  But thank heavens I won't be going back there again.  Hateful woman! 

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#1344949 Need to change my Ts and Cs

Posted by Bagpuss on 05 December 2017 - 18:52

My T & C document starts with "teaching music is not my hobby, it is how I earn my living..."

Oh look.



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#1263081 My first time sacking a pupil

Posted by Aquarelle on 19 July 2014 - 10:19



I hope your primary school head understands the difference; if not he/she may be doing 9 children a lot of good, but one child life-long irreperable harm.

 She does. She also understand that allowing one child to spit, kick, throw the furniture about  etc. and also destroy the work of "nine" others may be doing "the nine" irreparable damage so she asks parents to help by removing their child temporarily, with discussion and with suggestions about referral to those professionals who can help. Sometimes these suggestions are taken up, sometimes not. You cannot force parents to shoulder their responsibilities and schools here cannot refer children without parental cooperation.


Sorry to go off topic but just as limh feels - justifiably - very concerned about the  children in difficulty , I feel  - justifiably - very concerned about the others as I have too often seen the results of  the chaotic behaviour of individuals on the rest of the class.

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#1319206 The Things They Say

Posted by Latin pianist on 05 July 2016 - 17:43

I take exception to the remark that someone is too intelligent to accept the Christianity story. There are many academics including scientists who are devout Christians.
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