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#19636 SingingPython

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Posted 21 February 2019 - 18:02

Good luck with the house sorting.  My mother has been slowly trying to sort out her house; it's 3 years this week since my father died, her health's not great and the plan is to sell up and move back to the UK where my sister and I now live.  She's found it really slow going but some of it is sounding promising now.  My aargh was when talking with her earlier this week I realised she's starting to think in terms of being able to move around Christmas, which would be lovely - only for complex inheritance tax planning reasons, we've been advised to coordinate her move with the tax year and she had forgotten, what with everything else she's been doing.

 

We need to work out what to do for her (big) birthday in June, too.


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#19637 Misterioso

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Posted 21 February 2019 - 18:43

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#19638 Maizie

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Posted Yesterday, 07:48

Pah, just received an email telling me (and several others) off for being no shows at a training course.  I have replied stating that:

* I didn't want to go on the training as it was to 5.30pm at a non-local location

* The training class was then full up of people who did want to attend

* So we were told to sign up and join the wait list, so they could gauge interest for future runs of the course (at a better location)

* And I heard nothing else

* Until today's telling off for a no show

 

I'm guessing that enough people cancelled that we fell off the waiting list and in to the class, but there was no notification.  I hopeful that someone will be able to see this in the system...that may be a little optimistic, so my back up is that the rest of the people have a similar story.

 

And this is all a tiny nothing in the scheme of things, but I'm rather delicate at the moment so this is enough to cause tears and shaking.  Manager is also out of the country this week and next, so I'm not going to see her in person to feel like I'm not in Big Trouble for ages...


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#19639 Violin Hero

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Posted Yesterday, 14:08

Maize, you should be tough and refuse to accept liability for this as it was your employers/training proividers fault for not notifying you off the change in circumstances.

 

I would raise it with your manager, via email so you have an evidential trail, and await a response. If it causes a black mark against your name your manager should be able to get it removed if it is genuinely not your fault.

 

Also I would enquire with whoever made the arrangements as to how people were supposed to know about the change in cirucmstances. They may admit they made an error although I somehow doubt this.


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#19640 Banjogirl

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Posted Yesterday, 15:26

Took my Dad to the memory clinic where the doctor took little notice of what me and my sister said and plenty of notice of the nonsense my dad said. He ignored every piece of evidence that didn't fit with what he'd decided, and couldn't see the things that would really improve Dad's life, rather than prolong it. It was very disappointing as the doctor seemed on the ball the last time we went. We didn't get a chance to speak to him without Dad, which we did the last time, meaning more 'personal'problems were difficult to discuss without embarrassing Dad, who most certainly wasn't going to mention them, if he can even remember. Everything takes so long, when Dad needs action taking now to improve his quality of life. Dementia is an awful business.
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#19641 fsharpminor

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Posted Yesterday, 16:14

I sympathise, we had mother in law with us for 5 years until she passed (her home was 280 miles away). She had to be taken to the memory clinic and suchlike. But I am sure we gave her a better  quality of life than she would have had in a nursing home.


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#19642 Maizie

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Posted Yesterday, 16:25

Sympathies to banjogirl :(

 

VH - the email was from the head of department to my manager telling us to be "gently" reminded about attending training (not how one wants ones name shown off to HoD; and, yes, HoD did use "gently" in quotes!!)  I replied to my manager with pretty much what I posted here, just slightly less bullet pointy.  All the training is managed on an internal system, so I'm pretty sure if anyone can/does look, they will see if my proposed situation is what occurred.  But knowing the system, it may not actually be possible to do that :rolleyes:

I don't suspect there will be any black mark, virtual or actual, except inside my head.  My manager is super-nice so I think even if it were my fault she's unlikely to hold non-repeat offences against me!

 

On the up side, it distressed me enough to chase up the endocrinology department who have spent months faffing to get info to my GP, well knowing I'm symptomatic and struggling (just not life threatening so probably way down their priority list)


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#19643 Cyrilla

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Posted Yesterday, 21:32

:thereThere: Banjogirl and Maizie.


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Posted Today, 12:21

Took my Dad to the memory clinic where the doctor took little notice of what me and my sister said and plenty of notice of the nonsense my dad said. He ignored every piece of evidence that didn't fit with what he'd decided, and couldn't see the things that would really improve Dad's life, rather than prolong it. It was very disappointing as the doctor seemed on the ball the last time we went. We didn't get a chance to speak to him without Dad, which we did the last time, meaning more 'personal'problems were difficult to discuss without embarrassing Dad, who most certainly wasn't going to mention them, if he can even remember. Everything takes so long, when Dad needs action taking now to improve his quality of life. Dementia is an awful business.

Very difficult Banjogirl. I'm glad you've got your sister so you give each other moral support.

There really is too little funding in the NHS pot for elderly mental health, and if your parent doesn't quite fit in a nice tidy category it can prove to be awkward for the doctors and gets brushed under the carpet - unless one's parent actually takes things out on a doctor and says things which they shouldn't in which case the system can be made to work very quickly indeed!


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